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Message 137152 (In Reply to Message 137124)

Posted by fallenone on Jul 09, 2004 04:53 PM | Also by fallenone

Gender: N/A, Age Bracket: N/A, State: Ohio, Country: United States

At the very least you should talk to him about the incident and explain to him what is appropriate or not. You have to use discretion of course but if needed seek a professional. They're rather hard to come by. I know someone going through the same thing. It is better to be safe than sorry but just don't overdo it. If you are already monitoring him there is little more you can do aside from the confrontation. I hope this helps some. But if he is 14 he should definately be ready to be taught his responsibility because the system doesn't play with people his age.

the Fallen One

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Message 137124
how bad is it?

Posted by momwants2help on Jul 09, 2004 07:17 AM | Also by momwants2help

Gender: Female, Age Bracket: N/A, State: Missouri, Country: United States

He is 14 yo, and we just found out from a neice (5yo) that she came into a room where he was alone, he had his pants unzipped and he told her to touch his "butt".  He doesn't know yet that we are aware of this. I want to do some research and make sure we are handling this in a way that will prevent it from happening again and also make him be accountable for what happened. I don't want to make things worse by making him feel like he is a freak, but I know that he has to understand that this is totally unacceptable and he could go to jail for it. He is supervised almost all the time. We do a lot of things together as a family, but he also has a few friends that we know and trust the entire family and allow him to go with them, as well as having the friend over to our house often.  We have had no major behavioral problems from him and he seems happy. He does try to intimidate his younger brothers sometimes but I don't think it is to the point of being a real problem. I don't want to sweep this under the rug. We need to address it, but to what extent? Is this a warning sign that he has major problems? Could it be a lapse in judgement that comes with being 14? How do we proceed? Will he be able to overcome this without counseling, if we handle it correctly? What kind of counseling would he need? Can I depend on a counselor not to report this and end up with my child in jail? I have no clue how all this works. I deeply appreciate any input.

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137124, momwants2help, Jul 09, 2004 07:17 AM [how bad is it?]
      137152, fallenone, Jul 09, 2004 04:53 PM
            137171, poetsdreamscape, Jul 09, 2004 07:50 PM [time for a talk]
      137258, assumption18, Jul 11, 2004 02:14 AM [um]
            137261, steve, Jul 11, 2004 03:22 AM
            137273, momwants2help, Jul 11, 2004 06:03 AM [I didn't ever see a post either]
                  137287, assumption18, Jul 11, 2004 11:40 PM [Okay this is what i said]
                        137290, steve, Jul 12, 2004 12:40 AM
                              137297, assumption18, Jul 12, 2004 01:18 AM [Perhaps not "no doubt" then]
                              137299, dp1, Jul 12, 2004 01:30 AM
                                    137782, momwants2help, Jul 23, 2004 08:31 AM
                        137545, Silverthorne, Jul 18, 2004 03:49 AM [Disagree]
                  137328, jiGGaMe, Jul 13, 2004 03:59 AM [You sound overwhelmed..]
                  137340, deadmomwalking, Jul 13, 2004 10:37 PM
                        137381, myoung, Jul 15, 2004 01:26 AM [deadmomwalking]
                        137783, momwants2help, Jul 23, 2004 08:48 AM [thank you for your thoughts]
                              137844, deadmomwalking, Jul 23, 2004 10:55 PM [momw2h]
      137360, momwants2help, Jul 14, 2004 08:54 AM [Thank you to all who posted replies....u...]
            137546, Silverthorne, Jul 18, 2004 03:51 AM
                  137857, deadmomwalking, Jul 24, 2004 08:33 AM [painful erections]
            137679, poetsdreamscape, Jul 21, 2004 06:55 AM
                  137781, momwants2help, Jul 23, 2004 08:18 AM [in response to some of your questions]
                        137841, poetsdreamscape, Jul 23, 2004 10:08 PM [no]

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