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Message 136956 (In Reply to Message 136936)
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Posted by dp1 on Jul 05, 2004 09:34 PM | Also by dp1

Gender: Female, Age Bracket: N/A, State: Florida, Country: United States

As usual, your posts are insightful and uplifting. Thanks. I enjoy positive readings.

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Message 136936

Posted by deadmomwalking on Jul 05, 2004 09:18 AM | Also by deadmomwalking

Gender: Female, Age Bracket: N/A, State: N/A, Country: Canada

Well, that is done anyway.  I know it was a painful meeting but it was a very productive one - for both you and your niece.  You had the opportunity to apologize but also to hear what the effect of your actions was on your niece.  I remember that prior to the meeting you seemed to be expressing the hope that you niece might still remember you fondly, that perhaps you hadn't done any real lasting harm.  Now you know this is not the case.  It almost never is in cases of child abuse and that knowledge should help to keep you from reoffending.

Victims usually say the two questions they want answered are "Why" and Why me?"
Sometimes, as in my daughter's case, they think there is something supernaturally bad  about them, that they have somehow brought these horrible things upon themselves, even though they don't know why.  What your niece now, hopefully, understands it that she had nothing to do with it, that she is no more responsible for her abuse than she would be for being struck by lightning.

From the victim of a mother I want to thank you heartily for posting your experiences.  Your honesty and soul-searching has lifted a burden of sorts for me.  It is what I wished that my daughter's abuser could find the courage and moral rectitude to do.

I had a talk with the minister of the church I have been attending and she said an interesting thing.  She said that we all "sin" and commit evil acts at times; that this is human.  We start losing our humanity when we begin rationalizing and making excuses for our sins, rather than admitting and atoning for them and that we cross over into evil when we can no longer see that what we are doing is wrong.

I am glad you are crossing back.

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136798, JakeLF, Jul 01, 2004 11:28 PM [Meeting with her for the first time....]
      136827, Silverthorne, Jul 02, 2004 06:00 AM [Sad]
            136842, JakeLF, Jul 03, 2004 12:43 AM [The Day After]
                  136844, dp1, Jul 03, 2004 03:58 AM [Jake]
      136830, dp1, Jul 02, 2004 01:47 PM [Jake]
      136835, fallenone, Jul 02, 2004 05:00 PM
      136936, deadmomwalking, Jul 05, 2004 09:18 AM
            136950, deadmomwalking, Jul 05, 2004 07:19 PM [oops, freudian slip]
            136956, dp1, Jul 05, 2004 09:34 PM [DMW]
      137039, dp1, Jul 07, 2004 02:56 PM [Jake]

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