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Forum: The Other Side
Thread (Discussion): therapy alone? Switch to Flat View
Message 136955 (In Reply to Message 136951) My reply
Posted by assumption18
on Jul 05, 2004 09:28 PM | Also by assumption18
| Gender: Male,
Age Bracket: 21 - 29,
State: District of Columbia,
Country: United States |
I will answer in this thread about the same thing you posted in the other two, to simplify this back into a discussion.
What limits would you expect from a babysitter of your child? Would you even let someone babysit your child? How would they know what is appropriate. Can the child snuggle up to them or not? How about if the child cuts themself, could the babysitter put a plaster on the affected area, or nurse the crying child (depending on age) if they are upset?
You also say it is up to the parents, but what about in those situations where the parents do not fulfill their duty?
I see no issue with love being more than passed down by the blood line, otherwise adoption would never work. To say a hug from a person who is not your biological father is wrong, is to call those who adopt children, wrong. There is a serious flaw in your argument.
The scenario you present is as unrealistic, as the mindset you try to see me in. One where I am spending all my time trying to get a touch, or cuddle, or some kind of tactile contact from the child, completely seperate from anything else. In otherwords, you are viewing me the same as someone who desires sex with children, and would go through whatever means to get it, except without the sexual element, or in other words, you are viewing me, how you would view yourself with adult males.
You stated earlier that you cannot see from other than your own viewpoint, so let me see from my viewpoint. I cannot see what you could find attractive, or such in an adult male.
And you contrast hugging adults to hugging children. You know there is a difference, because as a child grows up, they naturally become more independant, and want less to be hugged / cuddled, etc, etc. You cannot compare both mindsets to draw from them one conclusion.
You make the issue seem like one timebomb, and me like some person with the clock just waiting to make it happen.
I ask you now, to define what you think a babysitter should act like. If you even feel such a person should exist.
The floor is open:
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Message 136951
Posted by dp1
on Jul 05, 2004 07:23 PM | Also by dp1
| Gender: Female,
Age Bracket: N/A,
State: Florida,
Country: United States |
Thread 136784, fallenone, Jul 01, 2004 04:10 PM [A most dangerous game] 136847, dp1, Jul 03, 2004 04:39 AM 136860, Navigatr1, Jul 03, 2004 02:35 PM 136872, fallenone, Jul 03, 2004 07:14 PM [The better way is not the easier way] 136878, dp1, Jul 04, 2004 02:26 AM [F1] 136893, dp1, Jul 04, 2004 11:45 AM 136915, Silverthorne, Jul 04, 2004 09:30 PM [Problem is....] 136920, dp1, Jul 04, 2004 11:53 PM [Silver] 137087, myoung, Jul 08, 2004 02:57 PM [dp1] 137002, fallenone, Jul 06, 2004 10:49 PM 137019, dp1, Jul 07, 2004 03:50 AM 137092, fallenone, Jul 08, 2004 07:12 PM 137105, dp1, Jul 09, 2004 02:37 AM [Generalizing] 137150, fallenone, Jul 09, 2004 04:45 PM 137194, dp1, Jul 10, 2004 04:44 AM [F1] 137972, fallenone, Jul 26, 2004 07:07 PM [You just don't g...] 137978, dp1, Jul 26, 2004 08:13 PM 138085, fallenone, Jul 28, 2004 05:20 PM 136894, dp1, Jul 04, 2004 11:51 AM 136916, Silverthorne, Jul 04, 2004 09:35 PM [Not entirely true] 136919, dp1, Jul 04, 2004 11:49 PM [Silver] 136928, Silverthorne, Jul 05, 2004 02:10 AM [Not the same] 136929, Silverthorne, Jul 05, 2004 02:18 AM [MLK lesson here] 136931, dp1, Jul 05, 2004 03:57 AM [Silver] 136979, Silverthorne, Jul 06, 2004 06:49 AM 136986, dp1, Jul 06, 2004 10:45 AM [OK] 136992, Silverthorne, Jul 06, 2004 06:14 PM [Well....] 137003, dp1, Jul 06, 2004 10:54 PM [Silver] 137023, Silverthorne, Jul 07, 2004 07:22 AM [DP1] 137085, Navigatr1, Jul 08, 2004 02:56 PM [Isolation] 136875, assumption18, Jul 03, 2004 09:50 PM [It starts with change.] 136882, Silverthorne, Jul 04, 2004 03:44 AM [About FreeSpirits] 136883, myoung, Jul 04, 2004 04:06 AM [okay...thanks silver] 136888, dp1, Jul 04, 2004 04:38 AM 136889, steve, Jul 04, 2004 05:15 AM 136901, assumption18, Jul 04, 2004 04:21 PM [More about me] 136910, dp1, Jul 04, 2004 08:26 PM [A18] 136917, assumption18, Jul 04, 2004 10:53 PM [Thankyou for your questions] 136925, Silverthorne, Jul 05, 2004 01:59 AM [Assumption] 136932, dp1, Jul 05, 2004 04:11 AM [A18] 136941, assumption18, Jul 05, 2004 01:12 PM [About Love] 136943, dp1, Jul 05, 2004 03:06 PM [A18] 136944, assumption18, Jul 05, 2004 03:42 PM [I see what yo...] 136951, dp1, Jul 05, 2004 07:23 PM 136955, assumption18, Jul 05, 2004 09:28 PM [My reply] 136958, steve, Jul 05, 2004 10:02 PM 136959, dp1, Jul 05, 2004 10:09 PM [Will Move th...] 136945, assumption18, Jul 05, 2004 04:35 PM [Second reply...] 136952, dp1, Jul 05, 2004 07:36 PM 136993, Silverthorne, Jul 06, 2004 06:17 PM ["Love" and boylovers] 136994, Silverthorne, Jul 06, 2004 06:20 PM [DP1] 136940, assumption18, Jul 05, 2004 01:05 PM [Where the line is drawn] 136954, dp1, Jul 05, 2004 07:54 PM [Drawing Lines]
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