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Message 136878 (In Reply to Message 136872)
F1

Posted by dp1 on Jul 04, 2004 02:26 AM | Also by dp1

Gender: Female, Age Bracket: N/A, State: Florida, Country: United States

Dividing yourself from a paticular person or group is nowhere near the same as isolation, by the way.

Agreed. But in this forum most of the support seems to be coming from the non-SO's. That's why I cautioned about dividing.

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Message 136872
The better way is not the easier way

Posted by fallenone on Jul 03, 2004 07:14 PM | Also by fallenone

Gender: N/A, Age Bracket: N/A, State: Ohio, Country: United States

Dividing yourself from a paticular person or group is nowhere near the same as isolation, by the way.

Thanks to Navigator for backing up the truth. on the other hand I am far from isolated and I am all the better for it. Kepping myslf afraid because of what society might think of me got me nowhere and while counseling gave me a place and person to vent my frustrations on, nothing helped me more than stepping out on faith and not giving up. Let me go back to the post that brought this all up to begin with. I was in Jake's shoes at least as far as the fear and isolation goes. I could hole up in my room for the rest of my life or I could fight for something beter. The easy way was the former, I chose the latter. Perhaps the former is as much a pride thing as a fear thing. Let me clarify. There are some things we don't WANT to do because it may hurt us and who likes pain? I could have quit after rejection from employers or from my ex. I certainly had my moments of frustration, but sometimes we forget these things are within the scope of our human emotional capacity and are too quick to label it as some kind of mental illness. Many people don't want to admit that they have more control over their destinies than they lead people on to believe. I have been guilty of that myself, but I decided one day that if I don't take responsibility into my own hands then no one else will. I just found out I'm considered "disabled" according to the state. Well I've been working for 7 weeks now, and my boss knows who to turn to when he wants things done right. The compliments for a job well done has really made me feel good. Having people giving me a chance feels good. Getting things off my chest in therapy or with a caring friend feels good. I f I had continued to let pride and fear interfere with my life I hate to think where I'd be now.

I know what works. Ironically these are the happiest moments of my life. I am doing more things now then I ever thought I could do (though others had seen the potential I failed to admit to). I'm no longer afraid to express myself even if it means personal attacks from those who do not agree with me. I have more peace of mind than ever. My bout with depression recently was my first struggle with it in years, but I survived it and moved on. Whatever struggles we face still come at us but with each new resource available out there we have a firmer support to keep us from falling.

One last thing. A few years ago I was isolated, except for therapy. the only person I spent any time talking to was a therapist, or more often in a group setting run by the therapist. It didn't help me because when that time was up I was alone again. I knew then I had to step out and meet people but would not do so. The rest is history. I was dependant solely on one resource, namely the sessions. There was no "contigency plan."

In the future I will not try to adress an issue unless I have ample time to convey the message I intend to convey to avoid more needless interactions with those intent solely on attempting to make the other person look bad.

The Fallen One

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136784, fallenone, Jul 01, 2004 04:10 PM [A most dangerous game]
      136847, dp1, Jul 03, 2004 04:39 AM
            136860, Navigatr1, Jul 03, 2004 02:35 PM
                  136872, fallenone, Jul 03, 2004 07:14 PM [The better way is not the easier way]
                        136878, dp1, Jul 04, 2004 02:26 AM [F1]
                  136893, dp1, Jul 04, 2004 11:45 AM
                        136915, Silverthorne, Jul 04, 2004 09:30 PM [Problem is....]
                              136920, dp1, Jul 04, 2004 11:53 PM [Silver]
                                    137087, myoung, Jul 08, 2004 02:57 PM [dp1]
                        137002, fallenone, Jul 06, 2004 10:49 PM
                              137019, dp1, Jul 07, 2004 03:50 AM
                                    137092, fallenone, Jul 08, 2004 07:12 PM
                                          137105, dp1, Jul 09, 2004 02:37 AM [Generalizing]
                                                137150, fallenone, Jul 09, 2004 04:45 PM
                                                      137194, dp1, Jul 10, 2004 04:44 AM [F1]
                                                            137972, fallenone, Jul 26, 2004 07:07 PM [You just don't g...]
                                                                  137978, dp1, Jul 26, 2004 08:13 PM
                                                                        138085, fallenone, Jul 28, 2004 05:20 PM
                  136894, dp1, Jul 04, 2004 11:51 AM
                        136916, Silverthorne, Jul 04, 2004 09:35 PM [Not entirely true]
                              136919, dp1, Jul 04, 2004 11:49 PM [Silver]
                                    136928, Silverthorne, Jul 05, 2004 02:10 AM [Not the same]
                                          136929, Silverthorne, Jul 05, 2004 02:18 AM [MLK lesson here]
                                          136931, dp1, Jul 05, 2004 03:57 AM [Silver]
                                                136979, Silverthorne, Jul 06, 2004 06:49 AM
                                                      136986, dp1, Jul 06, 2004 10:45 AM [OK]
                                                            136992, Silverthorne, Jul 06, 2004 06:14 PM [Well....]
                                                                  137003, dp1, Jul 06, 2004 10:54 PM [Silver]
                                                                        137023, Silverthorne, Jul 07, 2004 07:22 AM [DP1]
                        137085, Navigatr1, Jul 08, 2004 02:56 PM [Isolation]
      136875, assumption18, Jul 03, 2004 09:50 PM [It starts with change.]
            136882, Silverthorne, Jul 04, 2004 03:44 AM [About FreeSpirits]
                  136883, myoung, Jul 04, 2004 04:06 AM [okay...thanks silver]
                  136888, dp1, Jul 04, 2004 04:38 AM
            136889, steve, Jul 04, 2004 05:15 AM
                  136901, assumption18, Jul 04, 2004 04:21 PM [More about me]
                        136910, dp1, Jul 04, 2004 08:26 PM [A18]
                              136917, assumption18, Jul 04, 2004 10:53 PM [Thankyou for your questions]
                                    136925, Silverthorne, Jul 05, 2004 01:59 AM [Assumption]
                                          136932, dp1, Jul 05, 2004 04:11 AM [A18]
                                                136941, assumption18, Jul 05, 2004 01:12 PM [About Love]
                                                      136943, dp1, Jul 05, 2004 03:06 PM [A18]
                                                            136944, assumption18, Jul 05, 2004 03:42 PM [I see what yo...]
                                                                  136951, dp1, Jul 05, 2004 07:23 PM
                                                                        136955, assumption18, Jul 05, 2004 09:28 PM [My reply]
                                                                              136958, steve, Jul 05, 2004 10:02 PM
                                                                              136959, dp1, Jul 05, 2004 10:09 PM [Will Move th...]
                                                            136945, assumption18, Jul 05, 2004 04:35 PM [Second reply...]
                                                                  136952, dp1, Jul 05, 2004 07:36 PM
                                                136993, Silverthorne, Jul 06, 2004 06:17 PM ["Love" and boylovers]
                                                      136994, Silverthorne, Jul 06, 2004 06:20 PM [DP1]
                                          136940, assumption18, Jul 05, 2004 01:05 PM [Where the line is drawn]
                                                136954, dp1, Jul 05, 2004 07:54 PM [Drawing Lines]

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Message 136878 (In Reply to Message 136872)
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Message 136872
The better way is not the easier way