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Message 136828 (In Reply to Message 136768)
Thanks DP1- Jake

Posted by Silverthorne on Jul 02, 2004 06:08 AM | Also by Silverthorne

Gender: Male, Age Bracket: N/A, State: Arizona, Country: United States

Thanks for the kind words DP1. I appreciate it. I'm feeling better too and hope to start posting more soon.

Jake I think (to be honest) is feeling sorry for himself. Maybe not so much for his status as an SO but for being a pedophile. Personally if your totally focused on children and not attracted to adults I could care less what your doctor says you have pedophilia.

DP1 brings up a good question regarding sexual activities. I myself have had some sexual encounters with adults (in the past). Because my "target" is boys my encounters have been heavily homosexual in nature (last was many years ago). I decided it wasn't for me. That doesn't mean I wont do it again someday though (my religion is anti-homosexual so Im celebate).

While I wasnt really attracted to the adults it was an outlet for me. At the time I was a bit confused and desperate so I wasn't really a "good" partner but hey casual sex is just that.... casual.

Even without sexual contact though I do have some adult friends (a few). While none of them know about my attractions to boys they also respect me enough not to talk about "sex" (I think they believe Im a closet-homosexual - haha).

I'm not sure what type of restrictions you have on probation but social activity is CRITICAL in therapy. When I was in therapy voluntarily I really struggled to go out and do stuff. Now its easier. As a pedophilie I've always been kind of a recluse and I've had times when I've felt very sorry for myself. In the "big picture" though I realize I cant do anything about it EXCEPT LIVE WITH IT.

Don't let the label "pedophile" drag you down. There is NOTHING WRONG with being attracted to kids (its a mental illness). The "wrong" is acting on it which you did. But you also have to opportunity to NOT act again! You made a mistake. You've apologized for it. Now its time for YOU to move along with YOUR treatment and development.

Silverthorne

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Message 136768
Jake

Posted by dp1 on Jul 01, 2004 04:00 AM | Also by dp1

Gender: Female, Age Bracket: N/A, State: Florida, Country: United States

I'd like to ask some questions for clarification. You mentioned that your therapist does not think you are an exclusive pedophile which you don't agree with. Does your therapist mean that you can also have a sexually gratifying relationship with an adult?

You also question about being a pedophile who has never acted out. Silverthorne is a regular poster on this board who's been diagnosed with pedophilia and states that he's never acted on his desires, although he's had some close calls according to some of his posts. Just as a side note, Silverthorne has not posted much lately becuase of his recent cancer treatments, although within the next few weeks he should be done with his chemo. The reason I am mentioning this is because he's awesome. He's very supportive and has been in volunteer therapy for years. He has quite a story to tell. He's also fun to chat with:-) I think you guys will hit it off....just give him a few weeks to recover. He can tell you more about pedophilia then you'll ever want to know. He's also doing some graduate work in psychology and hopes to treat adult sex offenders down the road. I think Silverthorne is an excellent role model for pedophiles and most certainly would be posting to you more often right now if it weren't for his health problems.

I have a question for you. I also asked Silverthorne the same thing. While I understand we all have sexual preferences, what is stopping you from having sex with adults? Do you prefer males or females or both? Were all your victims about the same age and sex or is there a variety?

I am heterosexual 100%. I don't find women attractive AT ALL. However, in DP1's fantasy world if they outlawed sex with men and sex with children remained illegal,  I suppose I'd have to try women. Quite honestly the thought is repulsive to me, but if I had a choice of breaking the law, satisfying myself for the rest of my life or women, I suppose I'd force myself to try it.(Please don't ask me how much I'd have to drink and what I'd have to smoke to do this) Do you know what I mean?

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136765, JakeLF, Jul 01, 2004 12:42 AM [Seeking Help...]
      136768, dp1, Jul 01, 2004 04:00 AM [Jake]
            136828, Silverthorne, Jul 02, 2004 06:08 AM [Thanks DP1- Jake]
            137236, WalkingTheLine, Jul 10, 2004 11:19 PM
                  137264, dp1, Jul 11, 2004 04:03 AM [WTL]
                        137288, WalkingTheLine, Jul 11, 2004 11:45 PM
      136776, myoung, Jul 01, 2004 01:06 PM [Jake jake jake]
      136782, fallenone, Jul 01, 2004 03:34 PM
      137237, WalkingTheLine, Jul 10, 2004 11:37 PM

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