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Forum: Victims and Survivors Corner
Thread (Discussion): Privacy, victrims, and risk. Help.
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Message 173177
Posted by Quest
on Feb 12, 2006 09:09 PM | Also by Quest
| Gender: Male,
Age Bracket: 50 - 59,
State: Minnesota,
Country: United States |
Those I love are dealing with something and I could use some opinions if you don't have answers.
A lot of rapists are not charged. Either the victim or the state decide not to.
Now suppose there is a young man who is in an organization that attracts a lot of teenage girls. Suppose he raped one and wasn't charged. Suppose the victim is humiliated and wants to keep it secret.
People gossip. They always have and always will. We gossipped 100,000 years ago about the lions and tigers that lived up the path in the thicket. Gossip is a survival tool. The registry is a form of structured gossip.
I have a lot of hurting people around me right now. Confused too. I'm one of them but I chose this damned subject to be interested in and deserve everything I get. No one, me included, chose to have this thing happen and I'm watching two families and a really close friend group come apart at the seams.
I have some questions or requests.
1. Tell me about the humiliation part of being a victim and tell me about secrets. Are they good for the victim or bad or somewhere in the middle?
2. Why does a victim seem unapproachable do they now distrust everyone?
3. How are we obligated to protect his next victim from walking blindly into his trap? How do we balance that with the choices of the current victim?
I don't know what's right and wrong here anymore. Things are so tangled that anyone taking a step here steps on someone they didn't intend to.
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173177, Quest, Feb 12, 2006 09:09 PM
173202, june5, Feb 13, 2006 03:17 AM
173281, Quest, Feb 15, 2006 01:15 AM
173282, Quest, Feb 15, 2006 01:23 AM
173338, cass117, Feb 18, 2006 02:54 AM [i will take it on]
173346, june5, Feb 18, 2006 03:36 AM [Quest]
173360, Valerie, Feb 18, 2006 06:05 PM
173226, cass117, Feb 13, 2006 09:21 PM
173348, Quest, Feb 18, 2006 05:07 AM
173390, june5, Feb 19, 2006 02:40 AM [Quest]
173583, Quest, Feb 21, 2006 07:02 PM
173392, cass117, Feb 19, 2006 02:42 AM [thankyou for the response]
173493, rebel51, Feb 20, 2006 01:39 PM
173585, Quest, Feb 21, 2006 07:32 PM
173630, june5, Feb 23, 2006 05:05 AM [Sigh]
173653, meli, Feb 23, 2006 06:18 PM
173713, Quest, Feb 24, 2006 04:21 PM
173679, Quest, Feb 23, 2006 10:48 PM
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