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Message 174158 (In Reply to Message 174101)

Posted by cass117 on Mar 02, 2006 03:05 PM | Also by cass117

Gender: Female, Age Bracket: 21 - 29, State: North Carolina, Country: United States

meli i was raped from the age of 9 to 12yrs old by my brother i only meant at the age of 12 i didnt want to break up the family .i did not mean to insult you and i also attempted suicide at 17yrs old ,i also had family members not believe me and that is where it screwed me all the more my own mother has only recently addmitted that she hed an idea .your darn right that at 12yrs old i was concerned about christmas dinner but i was also concerned what would happen to me that night when my mom got drunk.i stopped the abuse myself by taking a knife and holding it to my brothers throat i told him that i would tell and he never touched me again.the statute of limitations has run out on me and i do agree my brother was vile but i also remember happy times with him also that is what i am trying to say i grew up with him he didnt always rape me it is hard to condemn him for life when i lived in the same house before and till age 14 when i moved to the states ,we had good and bad times and as a child the bad times were blocked out till i reached age 15 .now at 25yrs old i have had serious therapy and am doing well.i do get angry at him and he will never see me again but he is still my brother and i would hurt if something happened to him .i do admire your strength and courage at such an early age and again i did not mean to offend you.

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Message 174101

Posted by meli on Mar 02, 2006 02:43 AM | Also by meli

Gender: Female, Age Bracket: 30 - 39, State: Tennessee, Country: United States

I do not see how me as an adult referring to my uncle as a predator has any bearing on my feelings as a child being abused...I was trying to make the point that an abuser that  molests their relatives is just as vile (if not more so) that a "predator" that abuses non-relatives. I was 13 when I finally told and only after an unsuccessful suicide attempt. I was not the only child in my family he violated (and over many years). Breaking up the family was the least of my concerns at that point. I was terrified what my mother would think (It was her baby brother). I was worried she would not believe me; just like he had told me for so many years.

I just wanted someone to believe me and save me from the incredible emotional pain I was in. I did not really want to die. I just hated who I thought I was (what I thought I was) and I wanted the pain to stop.

There was quite a few people in my family that wanted to blame me, make me believe it was my fault; even make me think I had imagined the whole thing. Thank god my mother was not one of those people. She fought for me and against him. And that made all the difference in my life.

So once again...the CHILD should be the number one concern, not how it is going to affect Christmas Dinner.

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      172603, Quest, Feb 04, 2006 12:53 AM
            172630, rabow, Feb 04, 2006 03:38 PM
                  172657, dp1, Feb 04, 2006 08:36 PM
                  172869, rebel51, Feb 08, 2006 07:50 AM
                  172909, Quest, Feb 08, 2006 11:37 PM
                        172926, Valerie, Feb 09, 2006 03:26 AM
                              173001, Quest, Feb 10, 2006 03:44 AM [Thank you.]
      172617, dp1, Feb 04, 2006 01:22 PM [Rabow]
      172631, Valerie, Feb 04, 2006 03:40 PM
      173266, cass117, Feb 14, 2006 03:44 PM [what strength you have]
            173619, meli, Feb 22, 2006 10:57 PM
                  174021, cass117, Mar 01, 2006 02:04 AM [i agree]
                        174101, meli, Mar 02, 2006 02:43 AM
                              174158, cass117, Mar 02, 2006 03:05 PM
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                              173971, Valerie, Feb 28, 2006 02:33 AM
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