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Forum: Victims and Survivors Corner
Thread (Discussion): Fanally Justice?
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Message 172909 (In Reply to Message 172630)
Posted by Quest
on Feb 08, 2006 11:37 PM | Also by Quest
| Gender: Male,
Age Bracket: 50 - 59,
State: Minnesota,
Country: United States |
Time changes you and so does revisiting the trauma until the trauma becomes just a bunch of facts. Everyone around someone who is raped feels guilt. It spreads like a disease. Males feel guilt just because they have the same equiptment.
Women have a whole set of things that they use to attract valid mates who can care for them. Girls tossed into adolescence become confused by the power that their looks have on men. Confused becasue it scares them and at the same time it is important to them to have that ability. When men take a liking to a girl and she smiles at them and they at her, an age old exchange has been enacted that is healthy and good. It is when that turns to the violence of unwanted sex and usery that the confusion and trauma take hold. She can no longer trust the god-given instincts of attraction or even her smile to get that which she needs when someone has used it to violate her.
The victim of these crimes needs to do a lot of work to separate bad men from the good and to get back a trust of her own feminity. Doing something about the crime is the best first step in recovery.
For raped teens and adults there is always an awareness of what might happen or that they may be taken advantage of. For children they don't even know what sex is and the level of trust given to adults is far greater. The devastation is not even something I can imagine as a male.
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Message 172630
Posted by rabow
on Feb 04, 2006 03:38 PM | Also by rabow
| Gender: Female,
Age Bracket: 30 - 39,
State: Vermont,
Country: United States |
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172573, rabow, Feb 03, 2006 02:17 PM
172603, Quest, Feb 04, 2006 12:53 AM
172630, rabow, Feb 04, 2006 03:38 PM
172657, dp1, Feb 04, 2006 08:36 PM
172869, rebel51, Feb 08, 2006 07:50 AM
172909, Quest, Feb 08, 2006 11:37 PM
172926, Valerie, Feb 09, 2006 03:26 AM
173001, Quest, Feb 10, 2006 03:44 AM [Thank you.]
172617, dp1, Feb 04, 2006 01:22 PM [Rabow]
172631, Valerie, Feb 04, 2006 03:40 PM
173266, cass117, Feb 14, 2006 03:44 PM [what strength you have]
173619, meli, Feb 22, 2006 10:57 PM
174021, cass117, Mar 01, 2006 02:04 AM [i agree]
174101, meli, Mar 02, 2006 02:43 AM
174158, cass117, Mar 02, 2006 03:05 PM
173790, mawmaw, Feb 25, 2006 09:15 PM
173798, amiallison, Feb 26, 2006 03:16 AM
173946, mawmaw, Feb 27, 2006 05:38 PM
173971, Valerie, Feb 28, 2006 02:33 AM
174008, amiallison, Feb 28, 2006 11:12 PM
174180, mawmaw, Mar 03, 2006 03:00 AM
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