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Message 172617 (In Reply to Message 172573)
Rabow

Posted by dp1 on Feb 04, 2006 01:22 PM | Also by dp1

Gender: Female, Age Bracket: N/A, State: Florida, Country: United States

I am so happy for you. Congratulations on doing the right thing. Deep down I know you know you did the right thing. Guilt is a tough emotion to deal with though. First and foremost issue is that you will soon be rid of all the guilt for NOT locking him up like he so rightfully deserves. That has got to feel better than loosing 45 lbs on an Adkins diet, eh?

Tell us more about this gold mine of the women and childrens advocacy agency you used. What a blessing. Are they life savers or what? I'd be interested in whether they have services in regards to working with victims through the Court process. Geez....it's soooo confusing sometimes and emotionally draining. I wish it didn't need to be that way, but it is what it is so unfortunately a little more torture is headed your way (but it's a good torture - the pain and agony of dealing with criminal justice system doesn't compare to what you've been through or the pain of any future victims he may offend).

Do tell when his butt gets put in the slammer. Let's talk about guilt then and see how his guilt increases in a fast way when they tell him what his charges are. It's time to pass the guilt on to him and rid your mind of taking on something you had no control over. Darnit! Does this mean you're on the road to taking control and charge of your life? Sweeeeet! Gosh, this is the one time I wish I was the arresting officer. I'd love to see the shock on his face when they tell him his dirty little secrets are over. Life is so beautiful with many rewards. You go girl!

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Message 172573

Posted by rabow on Feb 03, 2006 02:17 PM | Also by rabow

Gender: Female, Age Bracket: N/A, State: Vermont, Country: United States

I have not been to this site in quite a while.  I have been just trying to live my life and not think about what I have been through.  It hasn't worked.  When I posted my first thread I got such great advice about fighting for justice.  I wasn't sure how to go about doing so.  I recently contacted a women and childrens advocacy agency and she did some leg work for me.  She found out that my father was never charged with molesting me.  He was charged and plead out on molesting my sister.  He got distributing to the delinquency of a minor and served one night in jail and one year probation.  She said with the statute of limitaions laws it might be difficult for me to do anything about it now.  After more research she found that if I was ten or younger in July of 1984 than I can still press charges.  I had just turned ten that year so I fianally have the opportunity to see justice.  She arranged for me to go the the police station today to give my statement and hopefully within a day or so my father will be arrested.  I also found out that my father did not only molest my sister and myself but he also molested three of his sisters while growing up.  This is a definite pattern and I suspect there has been others throughout the years.  My main goal is to get my father on the sex offenders list and to have him admit to what he has done to me.  He did admit to my brother that he did molest me so I have some evidence in case he tries to deny it now.  Part of me feels bad about the thought of putting my father in prison.  He was my father and we were raised to love and respect our parents.  It was very hard for me disown them and to go against the family.  The other part of me says he deserves everything he gets for what he has done to me.  I am 31 years old and I still do not sleep though the night.  My nightmares haunt me both in my sleep and while awake.  I get flashbacks often and find it hard to live a normal life.  My hope is just sticking up for myself and letting him know that it is not ok with me what he has done, will help me sleep better at night.  I'm just not sure how the get over the guilt for putting him in prison.   Wish me luck for I think this is about to become a long bumpy road.

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172573, rabow, Feb 03, 2006 02:17 PM
      172603, Quest, Feb 04, 2006 12:53 AM
            172630, rabow, Feb 04, 2006 03:38 PM
                  172657, dp1, Feb 04, 2006 08:36 PM
                  172869, rebel51, Feb 08, 2006 07:50 AM
                  172909, Quest, Feb 08, 2006 11:37 PM
                        172926, Valerie, Feb 09, 2006 03:26 AM
                              173001, Quest, Feb 10, 2006 03:44 AM [Thank you.]
      172617, dp1, Feb 04, 2006 01:22 PM [Rabow]
      172631, Valerie, Feb 04, 2006 03:40 PM
      173266, cass117, Feb 14, 2006 03:44 PM [what strength you have]
            173619, meli, Feb 22, 2006 10:57 PM
                  174021, cass117, Mar 01, 2006 02:04 AM [i agree]
                        174101, meli, Mar 02, 2006 02:43 AM
                              174158, cass117, Mar 02, 2006 03:05 PM
            173790, mawmaw, Feb 25, 2006 09:15 PM
                  173798, amiallison, Feb 26, 2006 03:16 AM
                        173946, mawmaw, Feb 27, 2006 05:38 PM
                              173971, Valerie, Feb 28, 2006 02:33 AM
                                    174008, amiallison, Feb 28, 2006 11:12 PM
                              174180, mawmaw, Mar 03, 2006 03:00 AM

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