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Message 172301 (In Reply to Message 172275)

Posted by dp1 on Jan 28, 2006 03:52 AM | Also by dp1

Gender: Female, Age Bracket: N/A, State: Florida, Country: United States

Hello and welcome to this forum. Can you tell us if his abuse was reported to law enforcement? Usually law enforcement can provide numbers to referal sources. Have you checked in your yellow pages to see if you have a rape crises center? They can offer valuable information and offer advice/resources applicable to your geographic area.

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Message 172275

Posted by username17 on Jan 27, 2006 09:01 PM | Also by username17

Gender: Male, Age Bracket: N/A, State: N/A, Country: United States

Yesterday, my father in law was accused by his 15 year old daughter of molesting her. This came out in couseling for recent panic attacks. The father in law in out of town till this evening. Mom has spoke with him and instructed him to find another place to live. I was asked to change the locks and take his firearms. I instead removed the firearms from the home and have taken mom and children (2 girls 10 and 15) into my home. Father in law requested that his 19 year old son stay at home to comfort him which he is planning to do. I am not wild about this decision but am not in the mood to argue with anyone. Mom has also had a feeling that this was going on in the past. It is likely that he has molested both of his daughter including my wife. Throughout our marriage my wife has had considerable intimacy issues and panic attacks. This has been very hard on our marriage. 
It is taking considerable effort for me to stay calm. 
I have a background as an emt and seem to be able to switch to a different mode (calm, collected, and focused) during emergencies but not for this long. Sorry for the tangent - back to the point.
I doubt he will be violent, but instead fear physcological ploys by the father in law. Apearantly he has suggested to his daughters that he will become suicidal if anyone ever found out.
What is the next step? Who gets involved? I am sure that I should still change the locks for when mom returns home.

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172275, username17, Jan 27, 2006 09:01 PM
172301, dp1, Jan 28, 2006 03:52 AM
172377, rebel51, Jan 29, 2006 03:18 PM

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