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Message 171830 (In Reply to Message 171740)

Posted by Valerie on Jan 22, 2006 12:14 AM | Also by Valerie

Gender: Female, Age Bracket: 50 - 59, State: Florida, Country: United States

Forgive, if I may be so bold, did you meet your husband in prison? and since you made mention you work in one, you obviously are more privy to the hardships and repercussions of what people face when leaving prison, were you prepared to face these issues and live them day to day?and if I may ask you one more thing? If you did not work in a prison and develope the empathy that you have for some of the people there, do you think you would have gotten involved with someone with a criminal history, keep in mind I am presuming you met your husband there, but I could be wrong..

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Message 171740

Posted by forgive on Jan 21, 2006 07:43 AM | Also by forgive

Gender: Female, Age Bracket: 50 - 59, State: N/A, Country: United States

my post probably sounded harsh. You are quite right, my personal experience has been with a limited number of female counselors, and I come from an unusual, I think, combination of experiences. First , I work in a male prison. I am a female. I work with many male sex offenders,  not in the therapy area, however many come to my area  and unload, yes, because I am a professional and have some experience.. I am also the mother of a daughter who has been molested and the offender is my husband. I have been to therapy with his group, and I observed the men to be respectful of the female counselor, but quite different when she was unable to be there. I believe I saw more real talking and emotions when she was NOT present. However, I do believe there are times when females are helpful , and show the offenders a different way to look at things. I cannot embrace the idea that there are not differences between the sexes, even though I work for the "state". Sorry- men are visual, women are more emotional . I am surprised that you feel reality is sexist.

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171682, Valerie, Jan 20, 2006 03:36 PM
      171715, forgive, Jan 20, 2006 10:13 PM
            171725, dp1, Jan 21, 2006 02:00 AM [forgive]
                  171740, forgive, Jan 21, 2006 07:43 AM
                        171798, dp1, Jan 21, 2006 04:39 PM
                        171800, dp1, Jan 21, 2006 04:48 PM [Forgive]
                        171830, Valerie, Jan 22, 2006 12:14 AM
                              172392, forgive, Jan 29, 2006 08:30 PM
                        171947, Quest, Jan 23, 2006 11:54 PM
                              171965, Valerie, Jan 24, 2006 03:05 AM
                              171973, june5, Jan 24, 2006 03:43 AM
                                    172012, Quest, Jan 24, 2006 05:44 PM
                                    172098, dp1, Jan 25, 2006 03:45 PM [June]
                              171991, dp1, Jan 24, 2006 04:58 AM
                                    172013, Quest, Jan 24, 2006 05:45 PM
                                    172014, Quest, Jan 24, 2006 05:48 PM
                                          172110, dp1, Jan 25, 2006 04:29 PM [quest]
                                    172394, forgive, Jan 29, 2006 08:45 PM [to 171991]
                                          172401, dp1, Jan 30, 2006 02:16 AM [forgive]
                                                172488, forgive, Feb 01, 2006 12:30 AM
                                                      172500, dp1, Feb 01, 2006 02:18 PM
                                          172456, Valerie, Jan 31, 2006 03:31 PM
                                                172487, forgive, Feb 01, 2006 12:20 AM
                                                      172505, Quest, Feb 01, 2006 04:33 PM
                                                      172509, Valerie, Feb 01, 2006 06:47 PM
                                                            172868, rebel51, Feb 08, 2006 07:28 AM
                              172111, dp1, Jan 25, 2006 04:34 PM [quest]
                                    172134, Quest, Jan 25, 2006 06:35 PM
                                          172184, cass117, Jan 26, 2006 02:43 PM [male therapists]
                                                172209, Quest, Jan 26, 2006 10:11 PM

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