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Message 171798 (In Reply to Message 171740)

Posted by dp1 on Jan 21, 2006 04:39 PM | Also by dp1

Gender: Female, Age Bracket: N/A, State: Florida, Country: United States

Of course there are differences between the sexes. Part of therapy for most male offenders is learning how to respect women and children. The problem I see with male professionals is that because they are male they never see first hand how disrespectful some of these male offenders are. Women pick up on it and try to correct the behavior immediately. What can be better than that? As a female professional I also pick up on boundary issues, abuse issues, etc... far more quickly than my male counterparts. It's not a good thing if the bad behaviors are not detected or incorrect thinking isn't addressed. If you find that the males are not talking or opening up as much with the females then I'd start looking for another female who can do the job. I'm female and can't shut my guys up....it's all about trust, respect and communication skills. Either you got it or you don't. A degree doesn't do a darn thing for people skills IMO.

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Message 171740

Posted by forgive on Jan 21, 2006 07:43 AM | Also by forgive

Gender: Female, Age Bracket: N/A, State: N/A, Country: United States

my post probably sounded harsh. You are quite right, my personal experience has been with a limited number of female counselors, and I come from an unusual, I think, combination of experiences. First , I work in a male prison. I am a female. I work with many male sex offenders,  not in the therapy area, however many come to my area  and unload, yes, because I am a professional and have some experience.. I am also the mother of a daughter who has been molested and the offender is my husband. I have been to therapy with his group, and I observed the men to be respectful of the female counselor, but quite different when she was unable to be there. I believe I saw more real talking and emotions when she was NOT present. However, I do believe there are times when females are helpful , and show the offenders a different way to look at things. I cannot embrace the idea that there are not differences between the sexes, even though I work for the "state". Sorry- men are visual, women are more emotional . I am surprised that you feel reality is sexist.

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171682, Valerie, Jan 20, 2006 03:36 PM
      171715, forgive, Jan 20, 2006 10:13 PM
            171725, dp1, Jan 21, 2006 02:00 AM [forgive]
                  171740, forgive, Jan 21, 2006 07:43 AM
                        171798, dp1, Jan 21, 2006 04:39 PM
                        171800, dp1, Jan 21, 2006 04:48 PM [Forgive]
                        171830, Valerie, Jan 22, 2006 12:14 AM
                              172392, forgive, Jan 29, 2006 08:30 PM
                        171947, Quest, Jan 23, 2006 11:54 PM
                              171965, Valerie, Jan 24, 2006 03:05 AM
                              171973, june5, Jan 24, 2006 03:43 AM
                                    172012, Quest, Jan 24, 2006 05:44 PM
                                    172098, dp1, Jan 25, 2006 03:45 PM [June]
                              171991, dp1, Jan 24, 2006 04:58 AM
                                    172013, Quest, Jan 24, 2006 05:45 PM
                                    172014, Quest, Jan 24, 2006 05:48 PM
                                          172110, dp1, Jan 25, 2006 04:29 PM [quest]
                                    172394, forgive, Jan 29, 2006 08:45 PM [to 171991]
                                          172401, dp1, Jan 30, 2006 02:16 AM [forgive]
                                                172488, forgive, Feb 01, 2006 12:30 AM
                                                      172500, dp1, Feb 01, 2006 02:18 PM
                                          172456, Valerie, Jan 31, 2006 03:31 PM
                                                172487, forgive, Feb 01, 2006 12:20 AM
                                                      172505, Quest, Feb 01, 2006 04:33 PM
                                                      172509, Valerie, Feb 01, 2006 06:47 PM
                                                            172868, rebel51, Feb 08, 2006 07:28 AM
                              172111, dp1, Jan 25, 2006 04:34 PM [quest]
                                    172134, Quest, Jan 25, 2006 06:35 PM
                                          172184, cass117, Jan 26, 2006 02:43 PM [male therapists]
                                                172209, Quest, Jan 26, 2006 10:11 PM

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