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Forum: Victims and Survivors Corner
Thread (Discussion): What is a Responsible Adult?
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Message 169284 (In Reply to Message 168745)
Posted by rebel51
on Dec 12, 2005 01:04 PM | Also by rebel51
| Gender: Female,
Age Bracket: 50 - 59,
State: California,
Country: United States |
I think that each and every case is different and it would all depend on the specifics of the RSO's case.
IF the RSO is not supposed to be around children, and yet he/she is dating someone that he/she knows has children then I feel that there is already something wrong and the parent needs to run. If they dont then I would NOT consider them to be responsible.
I dont feel that any parent that would allow ANYone to give thier child/ren a bath other than themselves is responsible...the same for changing diapers or clothing.
If I thought that my RSO friend had touched a child, I would first speak to the child and see what they have to say..IF the child said that they had been touched I would then take the child to the emergency to have the child checked out..if there was evidence to support the claim then I would turn the RSO in...if there was not any evidence and I was positive in my own mind that it had actually happened then I would beat the heck out of the RSO and then tell them to go away and never come over again.
I agree that RSO's need to get into a good relationship as soon as thier counciler feels they are ready because everyone needs to feel normal and to be loved. However if there is a child in the relationship then they need to make sure that the parent KNOWS all about them and then never never be alone with the child. Dont give baths and for Gods sake DONT sleep in the same bed. I would not hang around with the child unless the parent can be there at all times. The last thing you would want is to go back to jail just because you cant prove that all you did was lift the child up to the top of the slide you were not playing with the kids butt! I dont know..me personally if I was an RSO I would go out of my way to never be alone with a child, even if I had to follow the parent into the bathroom each time they got up to go, just so they could never say that I was alone even for a second...I just would not want there to be any way that anyone could put my tail end back in jail, just because I could not prove my side of the story. I think that the parent would dump me just because I would be so paranoid about being alone with their kid.
This is a very hard question...as I said in the begining...I think that it all depends on the individual story.
The one thing that I do know is that if someone is dating or hanging out with a child molester then they definatly need to let the kids know, and tell them that they need to keep thier eyes open. Not only for thier own sakes but for the sake of the RSO...if the child knows that the person is a child molester then they will be more carefull about wanting to wrestle around and to sit on the person's lap and maybe help to keep temptation to a minimum for the RSO.
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Message 168745
Posted by dp1
on Dec 07, 2005 03:22 PM | Also by dp1
| Gender: Female,
Age Bracket: N/A,
State: Florida,
Country: United States |
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168745, dp1, Dec 07, 2005 03:22 PM
168767, momhelpingbyherself, Dec 07, 2005 05:18 PM [dp1]
168775, Valerie, Dec 07, 2005 05:52 PM
168855, dp1, Dec 08, 2005 02:30 AM [To all - thanks for the inputs]
168921, Valerie, Dec 08, 2005 03:43 PM
169208, Valerie, Dec 11, 2005 02:24 PM
168839, PVulcan, Dec 08, 2005 12:56 AM
168852, momhelpingbyherself, Dec 08, 2005 02:09 AM [PVulcan]
168969, anti, Dec 08, 2005 06:43 PM [may I?]
168975, dp1, Dec 08, 2005 07:15 PM [Anti]
168977, anti, Dec 08, 2005 07:34 PM [permission from dp]
168982, PVulcan, Dec 08, 2005 08:51 PM [Anti]
169009, anti, Dec 09, 2005 01:53 AM [sorry p........]
169011, anti, Dec 09, 2005 02:17 AM [pv, actually...]
169013, steve, Dec 09, 2005 05:45 AM
169026, anti, Dec 09, 2005 03:22 PM [thank you.]
169028, momhelpingbyherself, Dec 09, 2005 03:28 PM [anti]
169030, anti, Dec 09, 2005 03:31 PM [thank you mom]
169284, rebel51, Dec 12, 2005 01:04 PM
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