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Message 168280 (In Reply to Message 168214)

Posted by jenclink on Nov 30, 2005 09:01 AM | Also by jenclink

Gender: Female, Age Bracket: 21 - 29, State: Washington, Country: United States

Thanks. As for your daughter, all you can do is be there. My parents do not know what happened, mostly because my mother didn't care. Let her know you love her and let her know you are always there for her. I'm lucky I have my friends. They're the ones who helped me realize that they are nothing but powerless little boys.

I can recall hours spent in my friends arms bawling my eyes out because of what happened. When I found out I was pregnant from that (too bad I can't use the word I REALLY want to) jerk, I felt SO dirty. And then, ironically, when he pushed me down that flight of stairs and I miscarried, I felt such remorse.

Life sends you a bunch of crap that, unfortunantly, you have to deal with. It kills me to know that molestations, rapes, ect are things we have to deal with. It disgusts me.

I'm actually planning on opening a Rape Victims Shelter, and I've told numerous people on and offline about this website.

Remember, just keep reminding your daughter how much you love her and ALWAYS be there for her.

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Message 168214

Posted by deadmomwalking on Nov 29, 2005 06:09 PM | Also by deadmomwalking

Gender: Female, Age Bracket: 50 - 59, State: N/A, Country: Canada

You are the same age as my daughter.  But she has a lot farther to go.  She still doesn't want to think or talk about the abuse, which, for now, I think is a good thing since the alternative to stuffing it seems to be cutting, suicide attempts and psychosis.  She is getting a bit better but she is like a broken pot that has been put together with not enough glue.  As long as she doesn't try to do much the glue holds but as soon as you add any stress she falls apart.  I don't know what else we can do to help her.  I hope that with time she will be able to have some sort of nrmal life.

It's good to hear you are determined to move forward.  Almost every victim I have spoken to has said that eventually they did move forward, although the abuse was like a ball and chain they have to carry around forever.  If you can somehow get rid of the ball and chain I think that's wonderful.   I think the most important thing for victims to realize is that by focussing on their abuser/abuse they are actually continuing where the abuser left off.  So you are still allowing the abuser to control and hurt you.  We have the right to be angry but make that anger constructive.  There is an old saying "The best revenge is to live well."

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168130, jenclink, Nov 27, 2005 11:22 PM
      168195, Valerie, Nov 29, 2005 12:29 PM
            168281, jenclink, Nov 30, 2005 09:15 AM
            168557, momhelpingbyherself, Dec 04, 2005 02:14 AM [jenclink]
      168214, deadmomwalking, Nov 29, 2005 06:09 PM
            168280, jenclink, Nov 30, 2005 09:01 AM
                  168387, dp1, Dec 01, 2005 04:44 PM
                        168447, jenclink, Dec 02, 2005 08:15 PM
                              168453, PVulcan, Dec 02, 2005 09:00 PM
                                    168559, momhelpingbyherself, Dec 04, 2005 02:21 AM [jenclink]
                        168463, jenclink, Dec 02, 2005 10:12 PM
                              168515, dp1, Dec 03, 2005 06:59 PM
                                    168521, jenclink, Dec 03, 2005 08:57 PM
                                          168560, momhelpingbyherself, Dec 04, 2005 02:23 AM [jenclink]
                                                168636, dp1, Dec 05, 2005 12:37 PM
                  168558, momhelpingbyherself, Dec 04, 2005 02:18 AM [my daughter]
      168273, myoung, Nov 30, 2005 07:46 AM [courage]
            168347, dp1, Dec 01, 2005 03:16 AM
                  168448, jenclink, Dec 02, 2005 08:18 PM
                        168514, dp1, Dec 03, 2005 06:53 PM
                              168518, jenclink, Dec 03, 2005 08:36 PM
                                    168574, dp1, Dec 04, 2005 06:51 AM
                              168561, momhelpingbyherself, Dec 04, 2005 02:26 AM [jenclink]
                                    168635, dp1, Dec 05, 2005 12:35 PM
                                    168725, Valerie, Dec 07, 2005 01:42 PM
                                          168764, steve, Dec 07, 2005 05:05 PM
                                                168780, dp1, Dec 07, 2005 05:59 PM
      168305, dp1, Nov 30, 2005 08:47 PM [Jen]
            168455, PVulcan, Dec 02, 2005 09:29 PM
                  168511, dp1, Dec 03, 2005 06:27 PM
                        168526, jenclink, Dec 03, 2005 09:42 PM
                              168573, dp1, Dec 04, 2005 06:31 AM
      168462, anti, Dec 02, 2005 10:10 PM [why?]
            168519, jenclink, Dec 03, 2005 08:37 PM
                  168658, momhelpingbyherself, Dec 05, 2005 04:37 PM [jenclink]

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