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Forum: Victims and Survivors Corner
Thread (Discussion): Sibling Issues
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Message 168346 (In Reply to Message 168050)
Posted by PVulcan
on Dec 01, 2005 03:08 AM | Also by PVulcan
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I think the reaction of siblings will be different for a number of reasons. Males tend to react different, and often think of physically harming the offender. I think the ages of siblings will play a big part. Older siblings may even feel a sense of responsibility that somehow there should have been something they could have done, or knew the abuse was happening, especially in cases where the victims knew their abusers. So many times I hear of victims that thought they were the only victims within their homes, and turns out a younger sibling was also being abused, more guilt, shame and blame for those involved. Every situation is SO different, some families may minimize the abuse, some may embellish it to a point where the incident/s become a topic of discussion that just won't ever go away, not a good thing, particularly for child victims. We always get back to this: sexual violence doesn't ever just affect the victim only, it affects siblings, friends, parents of victims. . Their view of the world becomes skewed, with personal safety & trust issues. Getting help with secondary victimization is detrimental to the victims healing process.
For the son that is not ready for counseling, one day he might want to talk about it. We put alot of pressure on our males in society to be MANLY, non-emotional and to seek counselling would be deemed as a weakness, to be followed quickly by societal punishment we hurl at males as in the homophobic name calling!
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Message 168050
reactions behavior issues for silbings of sexual abuse victims
Posted by deadmomwalking
on Nov 26, 2005 01:58 AM | Also by deadmomwalking
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168050, deadmomwalking, Nov 26, 2005 01:58 AM [reactions behavior issues for silbings of s...]
168110, rebel51, Nov 27, 2005 03:24 PM
168219, deadmomwalking, Nov 29, 2005 06:49 PM
168220, Rejected
168435, momhelpingbyherself, Dec 02, 2005 04:33 PM [my 2 cents]
168276, myoung, Nov 30, 2005 08:02 AM [my children]
168346, PVulcan, Dec 01, 2005 03:08 AM
168971, anti, Dec 08, 2005 06:47 PM [I had it very hard...]
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