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Forum: Victims and Survivors Corner
Thread (Discussion): Sibling Issues
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Message 168110 (In Reply to Message 168050)
Posted by rebel51
on Nov 27, 2005 03:24 PM | Also by rebel51
| Gender: Female,
Age Bracket: 50 - 59,
State: California,
Country: United States |
When my cousin found out that his sister had been molested by thier father he was angry and refused to believe that his anger was at all related to what had happened to his sister. He has been doing hard drugs for most of the 15 years since he found out, he has been in jail for beating up his wife, he has gone completely the opposite of the, straight A's and the letterman jacket, the jokester and prankster and the happy kid with the big smile for everyone.
He is now a unhappy malcontent that wont seek therapy and hates his father but refuses to admit that he does. He spent several years also hateing his sister for not telling sooner and he hated his mother for not seeing what was happening.
In my opinion I think that he actually hates himself for not seeing..or he did see but did not connect the dots til after the fact and now he is running from the fact that he did not understand early enough to help his sister. One of those hindsight is 20/20 guilt complexes.
I know that you were wanting a story with a better ending but this is the only one that I know...my own brothers and sisters were to young to understand and once they were older we all lived in a different state from the people who had molested me so it was unreal for them. As adults now facing those Uncles they are very polite and they watch thier children like hawks but that is as far as it goes.
I guess what I am saying is that if you cant get him to go to therapy then all you can do is love him and hope for the best.
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Message 168050
reactions behavior issues for silbings of sexual abuse victims
Posted by deadmomwalking
on Nov 26, 2005 01:58 AM | Also by deadmomwalking
| Gender: Female,
Age Bracket: 50 - 59,
State: N/A,
Country: Canada |
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168050, deadmomwalking, Nov 26, 2005 01:58 AM [reactions behavior issues for silbings of s...]
168110, rebel51, Nov 27, 2005 03:24 PM
168219, deadmomwalking, Nov 29, 2005 06:49 PM
168220, Rejected
168435, momhelpingbyherself, Dec 02, 2005 04:33 PM [my 2 cents]
168276, myoung, Nov 30, 2005 08:02 AM [my children]
168346, PVulcan, Dec 01, 2005 03:08 AM
168971, anti, Dec 08, 2005 06:47 PM [I had it very hard...]
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