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Forum: Victims and Survivors Corner
Thread (Discussion): Are you in contact with your abuser?
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Message 166960 (In Reply to Message 166798)
Posted by joy1234
on Nov 08, 2005 10:22 PM | Also by joy1234
| Gender: Female,
Age Bracket: 40 - 49,
State: New York,
Country: United States |
First off Val, if the victims, want you here, you stay here, I can't speak for anyone but myself anyone else will have to get up to plate and speak up, if they feel this was a wrong question coming from you. How could you expect someone who does have contact with their abuser to confide in you? You have to be able to be objective to ask a question like this, and from what I have read you can't be. There are stages victims go through, the last being healing and being able to move ahead. Forgivness is a big part of healing even though all victims do not have to forgive to heal. When I read all the things you write that are so negative it goes against what I learned in the healing process. To work with any victim or survivor you have to be open to all of the feelings and sometimes that might go against what you personally believe. In other words to ask a question like this from people that are in contact willinglly you would have to be opened to the fact that some SO's are still capable of being human beings even though they did the unthinkable. I am not going to add another remark on this I just needed to let you know how I feel as a person who went through all of this. If you have something negitive to say back to me well then we will open another thread in another area where we will not be bothering any victims, ok.
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Message 166798
Posted by Valerie
on Nov 07, 2005 06:34 PM | Also by Valerie
| Gender: Female,
Age Bracket: 50 - 59,
State: Florida,
Country: United States |
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166798, Valerie, Nov 07, 2005 06:34 PM
166828, momhelpingbyherself, Nov 07, 2005 08:50 PM [valerie]
166844, Valerie, Nov 08, 2005 12:51 AM
166901, momhelpingbyherself, Nov 08, 2005 01:39 PM [valerie]
166904, joy1234, Nov 08, 2005 01:47 PM
167016, deadmomwalking, Nov 09, 2005 08:21 PM
167063, joy1234, Nov 10, 2005 01:51 PM
167113, momhelpingbyherself, Nov 10, 2005 08:24 PM [joy and deadmomwalking]
167723, sisterseekinghelp, Nov 21, 2005 08:44 AM [he silently disappeared]
167877, Valerie, Nov 22, 2005 11:11 PM
166921, Valerie, Nov 08, 2005 05:20 PM
166982, rebel51, Nov 09, 2005 09:36 AM
167015, momhelpingbyherself, Nov 09, 2005 08:11 PM [valerie]
166960, joy1234, Nov 08, 2005 10:22 PM
167078, PVulcan, Nov 10, 2005 04:36 PM
167264, jenclink, Nov 14, 2005 10:44 AM
167324, momhelpingbyherself, Nov 15, 2005 02:52 PM [jenclink]
167337, steve, Nov 15, 2005 03:43 PM
167386, Valerie, Nov 16, 2005 01:26 AM
167413, rebel51, Nov 16, 2005 10:14 AM
167420, deadmomwalking, Nov 16, 2005 02:26 PM
167421, Rejected
167131, Valerie, Nov 11, 2005 12:46 PM
167247, joy1234, Nov 13, 2005 01:03 PM
167289, deadmomwalking, Nov 15, 2005 03:23 AM
167326, momhelpingbyherself, Nov 15, 2005 02:57 PM [deadmomwalking]
167325, momhelpingbyherself, Nov 15, 2005 02:54 PM [joy]
167244, mawmaw, Nov 13, 2005 07:54 AM
167327, momhelpingbyherself, Nov 15, 2005 03:00 PM [mawmaw]
167510, mawmaw, Nov 17, 2005 09:11 PM
167529, momhelpingbyherself, Nov 18, 2005 02:19 AM [mawmaw]
167617, Valerie, Nov 19, 2005 03:26 PM
170302, FIREFLYBABE, Dec 30, 2005 11:59 PM [Yes, I'm married to him!]
170307, anti, Dec 31, 2005 01:43 AM [re you being the victim?]
170371, Quest, Jan 01, 2006 01:26 AM
170399, dp1, Jan 01, 2006 06:31 PM [Quest]
170420, Quest, Jan 02, 2006 03:22 AM
170427, dp1, Jan 02, 2006 09:01 AM
170460, Quest, Jan 02, 2006 08:24 PM
170713, momhelpingbyherself, Jan 06, 2006 03:09 PM
170442, anti, Jan 02, 2006 05:09 PM [exellent dp, really........]
170461, Quest, Jan 02, 2006 08:30 PM
170488, dp1, Jan 03, 2006 01:51 AM
170505, Quest, Jan 03, 2006 05:25 AM
170711, momhelpingbyherself, Jan 06, 2006 03:05 PM [dp1]
170336, dp1, Dec 31, 2005 01:55 PM
170362, anti, Dec 31, 2005 07:44 PM [dp]
170714, momhelpingbyherself, Jan 06, 2006 03:13 PM
170747, forgive, Jan 06, 2006 10:23 PM
170757, anti, Jan 07, 2006 04:35 AM [to forgive..]
170773, Valerie, Jan 07, 2006 01:52 PM
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