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Message 166546 (In Reply to Message 166461)

Posted by rebel51 on Nov 05, 2005 02:48 PM | Also by rebel51

Gender: Female, Age Bracket: 50 - 59, State: California, Country: United States

I think that, that is the main reason that I like coming here!! In one short post you have made me look at life in a whole new way! I did not even realize that I had a problem in that area until you said that it is ok to NOT like to be touched. I actually broke down and cryed at the idea that it is OK to say it out loud and NOT have to have an excuse as to why I dont like it. I apparently did not know that I could be different or something...man that was just too strange!!
ROFL or I just needed a good cry..but tonight I walk away from the computer a little freer and a little lighter! All thanks to you! Thank you!!

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Message 166461

Posted by PVulcan on Nov 04, 2005 04:10 PM | Also by PVulcan

Gender: N/A, Age Bracket: N/A, State: N/A, Country: United States

Reb, you don't need to tell your story in order to let someone know that you don't like him coming up from behind you and touching you.  It's ok for you to have boundaries, and it's ok for him to know that you are not comfortable with that.  It's not ok that just because he does that to 'everyone' that he do it to you if you are not comfortable with that.  He probably  has no clue that he is making you feel uncomfortable and would totally understand if you just said something like:  You know Bob, not everyone is touchy feely and I sure would like it if you didn't approach me like that, it startles me and makes me feel a little uncomfortable.

I had a boss many years ago that called me 'Tiger', it drove me nuts!  I personally don't like to be called honey, suga, sweetheart etc from anyone other than my hubby. It's ok that I feel like that.  Most people don't mean any harm by that.  Once I asked her to not call me outside of my name, it stopped, no problems what so ever. She wasn't ill intended, she was just a person who used terms of endearment with everyone.

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165848, DoTheCrimeDoTheTime, Oct 31, 2005 02:31 AM [Article from St. Pete Times]
      165849, anti, Oct 31, 2005 02:49 AM [ty, great great article.........]
      165857, PVulcan, Oct 31, 2005 04:07 AM
      166407, Valerie, Nov 04, 2005 03:12 AM
      166412, deadmomwalking, Nov 04, 2005 03:29 AM
            166427, rebel51, Nov 04, 2005 09:58 AM
                  166461, PVulcan, Nov 04, 2005 04:10 PM
                        166546, rebel51, Nov 05, 2005 02:48 PM
                              166590, PVulcan, Nov 05, 2005 05:40 PM
                                    166669, rebel51, Nov 06, 2005 03:12 PM
                                          166675, PVulcan, Nov 06, 2005 04:54 PM
                              166926, momhelpingbyherself, Nov 08, 2005 06:12 PM [rebel51]

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