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Message 166068 (In Reply to Message 166040)

Posted by rabbitreborn on Nov 01, 2005 04:25 PM | Also by rabbitreborn

Gender: Male, Age Bracket: 30 - 39, State: Florida, Country: United States

Again, I apologize for not having responded to something of that nature. Without trying to sound like I'm making any excuses here, you will notice that I was not responding to many if any posts at that time. Every now and then I have to be away from my computer for an extended period of time and if I'm not mistaken, I was out of town at the time this was posted and I did not read it until you just posted it here. This , in my opinion, was an uncalled for personal attack.and you had every right to respond, and I applaud your restraint for not responding.

I cannot explain why others failed to respond in your defense, but I can say that I will be monitoring more closely what is being said, and responding as I see fit.I don't advocate anyone attacking another person either here on the forums or in person face to face. I would hope that a peaceful resolution can be found and that we could all get along, but in the real world, not everyone is always going to be peaceful. In the real world, sometimes people are going to take things the wrong way. Maybe I read more into Momhelpingbyherself's original post, maybe her intent was not to attack others, but as many other people also responded, it would seem to me that the general tone of her post was the same to everyone, and it was taken by more than just me as an attack against RSO's in general. If you notice, I choose not to give an angry response, but rather to take each of her points and respond to them in a civil tone. That won't always happen, I too can get VERY angry, but I have learned to try to control my temper and walk away. Unfortunately, sometimes, when the day has gone to the dogs, the fingers respond quicker than the legs do and I lash out just like everyone else. I'm working on that, bear with me and you will find that I usually will apologize once the rational side of my brain takes back control.

Does this make it right for anyone to lash out? No, definately not, but we are all fallible humans and it will happen to all of us eventually. The rules do need to apply to everyone equally, and recently, when I felt someone was "attacking" you (even though the post was not directed specifically at you) I spoke up and told them I thought they were out of line. Dad and navigator happen to be people whose opinions I regard as highly as I regard your opinion. They seem to be pretty stand up guys, but when they made the remarks they did, I took offense and let them know it. In the same token, if orolan or silver or you or Valerie were to make a similar remark, I would speak up and say something.

You're right, being bashed isn't pleasent, but as I said at the start of this topic, I have broad shoulders, and I can take it. However, I can also deal it out just as easily and I will NOT sit back and fail to defend myself or others. And, NO, I don't take your posts here about this subject as attacks but reather as an intelligent communication between 2 intelligent people trying to make sense of a very difficult situtation. :-)

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Message 166040

Posted by dp1 on Nov 01, 2005 02:49 PM | Also by dp1

Gender: Female, Age Bracket: N/A, State: Florida, Country: United States

http://www.sexcriminals.com/forums/108/17280/165019.html

<blockquote><span class="mb-quote">My conclusions are as follows:

1. It shows that many people in professional positions are incapable of doing a job without prejudices and biases. If anyone believes psychologists, law enforcement, judges and lawyers are not biased then you live in Judge Martin's doe-eyed virgin fantasy land. Read enough of DP1's posts and you'll see what I mean by inability to be unbiased. </span></blockquote>

Feel free to explain to me why not one person corrected this person, reminded him that DP1 correctly assessed the predator status over a year ago, continues to support RSOs even in the other side forum without needless bashing or bickering, and ignors F1's ignorant comments out of respect for others?

Now having said all that, I am having EXTREME difficulty having empathy for Orolan's anger over the bashing of him in this forum. If he tolerates this behavior in the other side against the one person that supports RSOs the most around here then why should he be so deserving of more respect in this forum?

Further, I clearly don't want to give the impression that I think it's ok to bash people. But ya can't expect not to get bashed if you support it. Silence is acceptance. Period.

Thank you for your understanding Rabbit. It's not nice to be bashed, it feels bad, it's disruptive and disrespectful. Unfortunately, the rules are not widespread around here and they need to be.

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165453, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 25, 2005 09:45 PM [When does a victim ever get any rights]
      165454, steve, Oct 25, 2005 10:00 PM
            165460, anothen, Oct 25, 2005 11:02 PM
      165464, youtoo, Oct 26, 2005 12:35 AM
      165503, tygerlillie, Oct 26, 2005 05:02 PM [Have a stupid ? well maybe not so stupid]
            165955, 1dadof5, Nov 01, 2005 01:57 AM [tiger]
            166017, Navigatr1, Nov 01, 2005 01:26 PM [Not Stupid]
      165509, rabbitreborn, Oct 26, 2005 06:28 PM
            165511, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 26, 2005 06:49 PM [rabbitreborn]
                  165928, rabbitreborn, Oct 31, 2005 09:48 PM
                        166020, Navigatr1, Nov 01, 2005 01:44 PM
            165542, 1dadof5, Oct 26, 2005 11:37 PM
                  165564, myoung, Oct 27, 2005 07:18 AM [coming and going]
      165558, anti, Oct 27, 2005 05:22 AM [what?]
      165565, myoung, Oct 27, 2005 07:19 AM [driving people away]
            165584, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 27, 2005 01:29 PM [myyoung and 1dadoffive]
                  165939, anti, Oct 31, 2005 10:41 PM [dp left?]
                        165971, dp1, Nov 01, 2005 04:12 AM [Anti]
                              165972, anti, Nov 01, 2005 04:18 AM [thank you...]
                  166022, Navigatr1, Nov 01, 2005 01:49 PM
                  166258, myoung, Nov 03, 2005 06:34 AM [mom]
            165598, dp1, Oct 27, 2005 03:31 PM
                  165601, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 27, 2005 04:13 PM [in a perfect world]
                  165658, myoung, Oct 27, 2005 07:58 PM [dp1]
                        165666, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 27, 2005 11:51 PM [myyoung No So's Rso'...]
                              166259, myoung, Nov 03, 2005 06:41 AM [mom]
                        165700, kids1st, Oct 28, 2005 06:56 AM
                        165773, rebel51, Oct 29, 2005 03:07 PM
                              165779, myoung, Oct 29, 2005 05:17 PM [reb]
                                    165788, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 29, 2005 06:21 PM [myyoung]
                                          166260, myoung, Nov 03, 2005 06:46 AM [mom]
                                    165823, rebel51, Oct 30, 2005 01:20 PM
                                          166262, myoung, Nov 03, 2005 07:16 AM [rebel]
                                                166266, rebel51, Nov 03, 2005 08:01 AM
                                                      166280, myoung, Nov 03, 2005 01:27 PM [reb]
            166021, Navigatr1, Nov 01, 2005 01:47 PM [I agree]
      165616, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 27, 2005 04:49 PM [to sit things straight]
            165930, rabbitreborn, Oct 31, 2005 10:13 PM
                  166012, dp1, Nov 01, 2005 12:06 PM
                        166034, rabbitreborn, Nov 01, 2005 02:25 PM
                              166040, dp1, Nov 01, 2005 02:49 PM
                                    166044, dp1, Nov 01, 2005 03:00 PM [My Post]
                                    166068, rabbitreborn, Nov 01, 2005 04:25 PM
                                          166073, dp1, Nov 01, 2005 04:49 PM
                                                166076, rabbitreborn, Nov 01, 2005 05:05 PM
                              166061, dp1, Nov 01, 2005 04:07 PM
                                    166074, rabbitreborn, Nov 01, 2005 04:52 PM
                        166058, Renunciation, Nov 01, 2005 03:43 PM
                              166070, dp1, Nov 01, 2005 04:30 PM
                        166082, momhelpingbyherself, Nov 01, 2005 05:48 PM [dp1]
            166024, Navigatr1, Nov 01, 2005 02:04 PM
                  166083, momhelpingbyherself, Nov 01, 2005 05:55 PM [navigatr1]
                        166264, myoung, Nov 03, 2005 07:24 AM [mom]

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