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Forum: Victims and Survivors Corner
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Message 165373 (In Reply to Message 165168)
Posted by kids1st
on Oct 24, 2005 01:20 PM | Also by kids1st
| Gender: Female,
Age Bracket: 40 - 49,
State: Alabama,
Country: United States |
Yes, I pressed charges, but they were later dropped (just as my Mom had to do). I would like to explain this to everyone, but it will be a super long post and I will need to get my thoughts together. Before anyone can even begin to understand this story, they will need background information on my husband's family (backwoods, hillbilly family with four boys who are still attached to their mother's umbilical cord! - kinda get the picture?)
My husband has one brother who has had 4 failed marriages due to his mother's interference and she is working on his 5th!
He has one brother who has moved away from the family and will have nothing to do with anyone (except for myself and my husband). He won't even talk to his mom anymore because he has one failed marriage due to her interference, and he moved away to keep her out of his current marriage.
My husband has come a long way, and has cut the umbilical cord (finally), but he still has a long way to go. (I guess I am just stubborn and will not give up on him.) (Most people think I should have left long ago.)
Then there is the molester brother. He still lives with Mommy and since their dad's death, they act more like a married couple that mother and son.(????)
And then, there's me! No one in this family likes me (they only tolerate me because I am married to one of them) because I rock the boat. I refuse to be totally dominated by my husband and I refuse to let him abuse my children in the guise of discipline. I talk back (his mother's words because I don't feel I am talking back since he is not my parent and I am grown.) I don't jump when he barks. And the worst offense of mine - I don't take crap from their mother and I have been known to tell her exactly what I think of her!
They grew up in a very abusive atmosphere (with my husband taking the brunt of the abuse) and a mother who didn't have the balls to stand up and protect her children because she had been taught that the man is the head of the household and you don't talk back or disagree with anything he says. (I just can't imagine myself acting like this! Not in this lifetime!)
Anyway, she was told when to go to bed, when she could read (never, because according to him, she had more important things to do), who she could talk to, etc., etc. She allowed him to totally dominate her because she says that is what the Bible tells a woman to do.?. I've never gotten that meaning from the section about the man being head of the household.
Anyway, this is the weirdest family I have ever seen in my life, and I have nothing to do with most of them. I just wanted to give you an idea of what I am dealing with before I tell you the story of my daughter's abuse.
And also, I think that I am having to take baby steps with this for my sake, so please bear with me!
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Message 165168
Posted by Valerie
on Oct 21, 2005 12:20 PM | Also by Valerie
| Gender: Female,
Age Bracket: 50 - 59,
State: Florida,
Country: United States |
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165021, kids1st, Oct 19, 2005 07:04 PM
165057, dp1, Oct 20, 2005 02:49 AM
165073, 1dadof5, Oct 20, 2005 04:30 AM
165092, kids1st, Oct 20, 2005 01:50 PM [1dadof5]
165090, kids1st, Oct 20, 2005 01:44 PM
165077, youtoo, Oct 20, 2005 05:50 AM
165089, kids1st, Oct 20, 2005 01:43 PM
165168, Valerie, Oct 21, 2005 12:20 PM
165373, kids1st, Oct 24, 2005 01:20 PM
165466, 1dadof5, Oct 26, 2005 03:15 AM [kids1st]
165467, PVulcan, Oct 26, 2005 03:20 AM
165543, 1dadof5, Oct 26, 2005 11:42 PM
165563, myoung, Oct 27, 2005 07:11 AM [dad]
165699, kids1st, Oct 28, 2005 06:12 AM
165715, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 28, 2005 02:27 PM [myyoung]
165767, rebel51, Oct 29, 2005 02:38 PM
165787, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 29, 2005 06:13 PM [rebel51]
165714, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 28, 2005 02:26 PM [1dadof5]
165713, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 28, 2005 02:24 PM [PVulcan]
165697, kids1st, Oct 28, 2005 06:09 AM
166410, Valerie, Nov 04, 2005 03:19 AM
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