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Message 164238 (In Reply to Message 164033)
counseling

Posted by kids1st on Oct 12, 2005 06:12 AM | Also by kids1st

Gender: Female, Age Bracket: 40 - 49, State: Alabama, Country: United States

Hi, Transparent. I would suggest some sort of counseling for starters. But she needs to be absolutely honest with her counselor. A counseler could also maybe help her to tell her parents if she decides too. But keeping it a secret is a dangerous way to go. That is how sex offenders molest hundreds of children before they are caught. Her secrecy may be putting other children in danger. But I would definitely go into some counseling first and then maybe she can decide which route she wants to take. Also, in some states, there is a law that lets a victim press charges against someone when they become of age.
Example- child molested at age 10
- no charges brought against molester
- child turns 18 or 21(I don't know which age is appropriate)
- victim has a statute of limitation in which to now file charges.

I am not sure how many states have this, but I do know that some do. That may be something to check into.
Good luck to you and your friend.

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Message 164033

Posted by transparent on Oct 10, 2005 06:37 AM | Also by transparent

Gender: Male, Age Bracket: 18 - 20, State: N/A, Country: United States

I have a friend who has been having trouble deciding some things lately.  She is currently 17 years old and was sexually abused by her 16 or so year old brother when she was 8...or so.  She doesn't remember details on ages but the brother was at least 15 or 16 at the time.  It's been at least 9 years since it happened.

We were wondering what would be the best route to take on this (until recently she had been trying to keep everything behind her but is now finding it hard to face her brother and is not sure if she wants to press charges or something,,,resentment is starting to hit her hard against him.)  It's difficult because I'm actually the only person who knows, not even their parents know.  I assume legal action can still be taken against him even though he's no longer a minor?  Would he be charged as a minor or how would all that work.  At the moment he has no legal record of abuse and I think no other legal record...other than the horrible secret he's pretty normal.

How might she/we go about all this, including maybe how she'd break it to her parents/authorities (she's not even sure she wants to, this is just for information to help her along).

Thanks for any help anyone can help with this situation.  Any kind of info would help us a lot.

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164033, transparent, Oct 10, 2005 06:37 AM
      164072, steve, Oct 10, 2005 03:57 PM
            164096, transparent, Oct 10, 2005 06:46 PM
                  164128, transparent, Oct 11, 2005 04:45 AM
                        164167, saintjimmy, Oct 11, 2005 05:34 PM
                              164829, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 17, 2005 03:53 PM [my opinion before i le...]
                                    164855, saintjimmy, Oct 17, 2005 08:50 PM
                                          165022, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 19, 2005 07:09 PM [saintjimmy]
                                          165097, kids1st, Oct 20, 2005 02:06 PM [Repressed Memories]
                              164831, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 17, 2005 04:06 PM [saintjimmy]
                  164135, polykenos, Oct 11, 2005 05:52 AM [evidence ?]
                  164144, dp1, Oct 11, 2005 08:24 AM
                        164166, oicu812, Oct 11, 2005 05:25 PM
                              164239, transparent, Oct 12, 2005 06:16 AM
                                    164286, oicu812, Oct 12, 2005 02:39 PM
                                          164360, dp1, Oct 13, 2005 01:04 AM
                                    164306, PVulcan, Oct 12, 2005 03:58 PM [transparent]
                                    164311, Renunciation, Oct 12, 2005 04:18 PM [Counseling Source]
                                    164395, polykenos, Oct 13, 2005 06:38 AM
                                          164441, transparent, Oct 13, 2005 05:12 PM
      164238, kids1st, Oct 12, 2005 06:12 AM [counseling]
            164385, transparent, Oct 13, 2005 03:48 AM
                  164523, deadmomwalking, Oct 14, 2005 10:53 AM
                        164549, transparent, Oct 14, 2005 08:01 PM
                              164786, deadmomwalking, Oct 17, 2005 04:09 AM

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