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Message 163514 (In Reply to Message 163461)
navigatr1

Posted by momhelpingbyherself on Oct 04, 2005 09:07 PM | Also by momhelpingbyherself

Gender: Female, Age Bracket: 40 - 49, State: Kentucky, Country: United States

yes i am in counceling. my step sister was in hurricane Rita, and because her own dad didn't care enough to stay around to see if she was ok, my mom calls me and asks me how to get in touch with fema because i was involved in a tornado a few years ago. yes i have a lot of anger. but i think its more towards my whole family that abandoned me. since friday, i had gotten food poisioning. my blood pressure has shot up to 140/100 and is now 134/84. my head hurts like i don't know what. but dr. won't put me on blood pressure meds. both of my biological parents have high blood pressure. and of course i have a husband who is a jerk when he wants to be. if i could have gotten to my stepfather when my daughter told me, i would have killed him. in court my mom had nerve to ask if i was ok. i said what the hell do you think. its not the first time she has chosen him over me. but i don't care about myself. i care about my children and that is a concept she doesn't know anything about

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Message 163461

Posted by Navigatr1 on Oct 04, 2005 02:16 PM | Also by Navigatr1

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In another thread, momhelpingbyherself wrote:
http://www.sexcriminals.com/forums/106/17110/163102.html
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Is there anyone in here that can explain to me, for myself, why i am having nightmares, since my stepfather got out of jail? He isn't in my nightmares? My mother is! My daughter was the victim. My step-sister was a victim of Hurricane Rita, her own dad didn't care to stay home to see if she was ok. I am called to see how she would get in touch with FEMA, because i have history on it, sadly enough. But I have nightmare yesterday, needing my mother, and when i call her, she tells me, should have thought of that before. Now that is pretty messed up! wouldn't you agree. I have been having these dreams for over a month. I didn't post in the forum because there are 2 people, who i wont name, who think i am basically to blame for what happened to my daughter. Because my step dad touched me when i was in my middle 20's. Did i think he would touch my daughter who was only 15? NO! So see, people, are scared. I am opening myself now, for ridicule that i know will come. But, i am strong enough to take it. Do you think that others will be at first? I have had to deal with the guilt now for a year. It doesn't get any easier for me. especially when people love to point it out to me. I am just trying to show you how new people who come into the forum and may actually not be able to post in the general forum at first may feel. and that is my opinion, and i am not trying to argue, as you suggested earlier in one of your posts to me.
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This thread is an attempt to give you some help, and is not meant to attack you.

You have a lot of anger towards your mother since you feel that she betrayed you.  Especially since she is sticking up for your stepfather.  You have every right to be angry at her.  And I think this anger is spilling over into your subconcious at night in the form of nightmares.

Have you tryied journaling to express your anger towards your mom?  Are you in any sort of counseling?  The important thing is for you to express your anger in a constructive way as opposed to something that is destructive.

I am having trouble staying connected right now due to a storm.  The point of this thread is to facilitate help for you.

--Navigatr1

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163461, Navigatr1, Oct 04, 2005 02:16 PM
      163471, dp1, Oct 04, 2005 02:47 PM
            163515, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 04, 2005 09:09 PM [dp1]
      163514, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 04, 2005 09:07 PM [navigatr1]
            163571, dp1, Oct 05, 2005 10:20 AM [Mom]
                  163604, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 05, 2005 07:12 PM [dp1]
            164414, Navigatr1, Oct 13, 2005 02:11 PM
                  164469, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 13, 2005 08:53 PM [navigatr1]
      164275, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 12, 2005 01:40 PM [dp1]
            164342, steve, Oct 12, 2005 09:48 PM
                  164409, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 13, 2005 02:02 PM [steve]
                        164413, steve, Oct 13, 2005 02:11 PM
                              164467, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 13, 2005 08:51 PM [steve]
                                    164780, steve, Oct 17, 2005 02:05 AM
                                          164825, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 17, 2005 03:22 PM [steve]
                                                164844, steve, Oct 17, 2005 06:38 PM
            164400, Navigatr1, Oct 13, 2005 01:30 PM
                  164410, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 13, 2005 02:05 PM [navigatr1]
                        164521, deadmomwalking, Oct 14, 2005 09:32 AM
                              164532, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 14, 2005 03:52 PM [deadmomwalking]
      164518, kids1st, Oct 14, 2005 06:13 AM
            164647, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 15, 2005 06:29 PM [kidsfirst]
                  164700, kids1st, Oct 16, 2005 08:24 AM
                        164762, momhelpingbyherself, Oct 16, 2005 09:04 PM [kids1st]

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