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Forum: Victims and Survivors Corner
Thread (Discussion): stepmom rights? - Stepmom questions
Message 133534
Posted by stepmom
on May 13, 2004 11:00 PM | Also by stepmom
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My husband is a sex offender on probation. We are in the process of a divorce due to his continual abuse of me, both sexual and emotional. We have been together for several years and his son (my stepson) is like my own. Now that the divorce is underway, he is very angry with me because he did not want me to leave and is preventing me from seeing my stepson. Does anyone have any knowledge in this arena? Do I have any rights? What type of attorney should I consult? I could go forward with all of the information I have about his abuse of me in our relationship but would it even do any good since we were married? I just want to do what is best for my stepson and myself. It's so hard to know what that is.... I feel like I am choosing to leave to get away from his abuse but he is still able to hurt me by now not letting me see my stepson. The worst part is he is so prideful about it and so pleased with himself that he has all the control....it makes me sick...
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Message 133543 (In Reply to Message 133534)
Posted by steve
on May 13, 2004 11:38 PM | Also by steve
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stepmom, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I don't have the answers to most of your questions, but I think the type of lawyer you should look for is one who specializes in family law and divorce law and has proven experience handling cases like yours. I hope you return to this thread for more advice and support, but I wanted to leave you with this - do not stay with this man if he's abusing you sexually and emotionally. Leaving him is the right thing to do, no matter how hard it might be.
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Message 133548 (In Reply to Message 133534)
Stepmom
Posted by DoTheCrimeDoTheTime
on May 13, 2004 11:58 PM | Also by DoTheCrimeDoTheTime
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Each state has their own set of laws. Get an attorney and find out what rights you have.
Have you talked with his probation officer? Did you rely on your husband to tell you the conditons of his probation or did you go in with him to his probaion office and meet with them. A lot of offenders' better halves stand faithfully by them throughout the legal process to make them look like the loving spouse/partner they proclaim themselves to be. When it comes time for supervision, they tend to exclude the "details" of the supervision.
Abuse is abuse. Using his son to keep you from leaving is abuse as well. You may have no rights to have visitation with his son, but the cycle of abuse must end. Be strong and fight with the pen, not the sword.
DTC
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Message 133808 (In Reply to Message 133534)
Stepmom questions
Posted by Silverthorne
on May 16, 2004 07:31 AM | Also by Silverthorne
| Gender: Male,
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State: Arizona,
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Stepmom welcome to the board.
Just a couple quick questions. When you married him did you legally adopt the boy? Thats critical. If you didn't you really have no legal right to him at all despite being a "stepmom".
You said you've been abused by him sexually. Have you reported this? Is he forcing you (rape) or what to have contact with him. If your not reporting it they'll never know about it.
You said he was a sex offender. What was his crime and how long ago? Was he arrested and sentenced? What is his criminal history?
Silverthorne
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133534, stepmom, May 13, 2004 11:00 PM
133543, steve, May 13, 2004 11:38 PM
133548, DoTheCrimeDoTheTime, May 13, 2004 11:58 PM [Stepmom]
133808, Silverthorne, May 16, 2004 07:31 AM [Stepmom questions]
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