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Message 129147 (In Reply to Message 128169)
I dont have a clue ....

Posted by tryingtosurvive on Mar 25, 2004 04:18 PM | Also by tryingtosurvive

Gender: Male, Age Bracket: 40 - 49, State: N/A, Country: Australia

My involvement in this forum is as a man in his mid fourties acussed of raping a woman of simialr age. I am innocent but that doesnt prevent the system from all but destroying my life during the interregnum of " do I go to jail for many years or do the jury see the truth? whilst I am on bail`" The process for me and my accuser will be formidable. The legal system is full of rooms with spinning knives installed. I hear your story and my only councell is to consider the hell that trying to bring to justice the perp will wreak upon your lives. The crime that has been commited against your girl demands recourse at law. She is fragile. The perp needs to spend time in prison and only you guys can make it happen. The razor's edge.

Silverthorne is a wiser man than many.

Like I said, I dont have a clue, because my involvement is different .

I can however understand your anger and your desire to scream to the sky at the injustuice. Horrible things happen to decent people.
All I can offer you both is my prayers and hopes for a brand new day .

Blessings TTS

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Message 128169
deadmomwalking

Posted by cathie on Mar 07, 2004 03:49 AM | Also by cathie

Gender: Female, Age Bracket: 40 - 49, State: Connecticut, Country: United States

Let me start off by saying you are headed in the right direction in helping your daughter, just by believing her.  As for my self and many others who has been molested the most likely response when it does come out is deniel on the parents end.  For my self it was with my step brother and it took 20 years for my mother to say she finally believed me and by that time it did not matter.  Your daughter will have these pictures in her head for ever they never go away, it is the support that will help her deal with it all in a safe produtive way.  
I am not an advocate for inpatient services, to me they look for extra problems, I would recommend a support group in your area check with your local rape crisis center they will direct your in the right direction.   I can only tell you to continue to be there for her.  You ask why she did not come and tell you, I know when it was happening to me, he brain washed me for many years and I don't know when he started with your daughter but my step brother started with me when I was 5 and at that age I was told by him that he was suppost to do those things to me.  It was when I became 14 I asked myself how could my parents not no that this was going on for all those years,   How could they not be protecting me and when they did not belieave me when I told them what he was doing to me, it  mentaly messed me up for many years.   You as a parent don't know what he mentally put her through, more may come out in her therapy.  The main thing is not to push her she has been hurt more mentally by a lot of people, and even though not on purpose it has been done and she needs to be around people who have been through the same thing , that's why I recommend a support group.
I wish you all the best, but I wish her freedom from her hell that she has been living in past present and may her future be as free.

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126605, deadmomwalking, Jan 31, 2004 07:29 AM
      126650, Silverthorne, Jan 31, 2004 11:31 PM [Hello DMW]
            126812, deadmomwalking, Feb 03, 2004 05:39 AM
      126999, PVulcan, Feb 08, 2004 01:43 PM [Hi Mom]
      127741, Rachel, Feb 25, 2004 01:09 PM [If you need someone to talk to....]
            127824, deadmomwalking, Feb 27, 2004 10:09 PM
      127951, bess, Mar 02, 2004 12:17 PM
            128039, deadmomwalking, Mar 04, 2004 10:01 AM
      128107, bess, Mar 05, 2004 01:33 PM
      128147, glasschicken50, Mar 06, 2004 01:39 PM [the power of prayer!]
      128169, cathie, Mar 07, 2004 03:49 AM [deadmomwalking]
            129147, tryingtosurvive, Mar 25, 2004 04:18 PM [I dont have a clue ....]
            129149, tryingtosurvive, Mar 25, 2004 04:36 PM [just a ps]
                  129166, dp1, Mar 25, 2004 10:54 PM [TTS]
      130538, thumper, Apr 16, 2004 07:47 PM [Your daughters story is my own]
            130558, dp1, Apr 17, 2004 04:17 AM [thumper]
            130565, deadmomwalking, Apr 17, 2004 08:00 AM [thumper]
            130602, Silverthorne, Apr 18, 2004 03:30 AM [Thumper]
      130539, Rejected
      131206, betsemes, Apr 22, 2004 03:26 PM
            131220, TGoodman, Apr 22, 2004 06:38 PM [To betsemes]
            131249, deadmomwalking, Apr 22, 2004 09:40 PM
                  131333, betsemes, Apr 23, 2004 02:18 PM
                        131336, betsemes, Apr 23, 2004 02:56 PM
                              131353, steve, Apr 23, 2004 04:55 PM
                                    131364, betsemes, Apr 23, 2004 05:18 PM
                                          131375, steve, Apr 23, 2004 06:03 PM [Explanation of what happened ...]
                                          131485, deadmomwalking, Apr 24, 2004 08:21 AM
      131323, bess, Apr 23, 2004 07:57 AM [Shamans and other healers]
            131486, deadmomwalking, Apr 24, 2004 08:25 AM
      133583, greatdad53, May 14, 2004 02:20 AM [My daughter and I both feel your Pain!]

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I dont have a clue ....

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deadmomwalking