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Forum: Victims and Survivors Corner
Thread (Discussion): sad , not sure what to do
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Message 124963 (In Reply to Message 124884)
you are normal
Posted by FindingPeace
on Jan 13, 2004 09:13 PM | Also by FindingPeace
| Gender: Female,
Age Bracket: 30 - 39,
State: Oregon,
Country: United States |
Dear alone, alone you are not. You have every right to be angry. You have every right to ALL the feelings that you have and then some. A piece of your innonce was taken from you and yeah.. you are mad as hell! Your feelings are normal and to express them is normal. To be angry and hateful is normal; don't let anyone tell you that it's not. Lets look at a brighter side though. You are still the same beautiful soul that you were before the violation. Your heart is still capable of love. You are a worthwhile human and you need to recognize this. What happened to you was not about YOU, the person that YOU are. It is about a sickness and you happen to have that sickness imposed on you. Fair, hell no! But you can find peace with yourself. As hard as it may be to work through your feelings, know that there is light at the end of this tunnel. I allowed my abuse to rule my life for over 18 years and it did nothing for me... NOTHING. But I have found peace with myself. I forgave myself for the feelings that I held for so long. I allowed myself to be free, giving away the hold that the pedophile had on me. It's not easy to accept what happened, it is really really hard. What is easy is letting go of the hold that your abuser has on you. Don't let their sickness become yours by allowing yourself to be swallowed in years of angst and hatred. You will never forget what happened BUT you will make it through and you will become stronger. Your heart will lighten and your views about your body will be different. Remember, it's NOT ABOUT YOU. You are a whole human; don't allow your violation to take anymore from you.
Seeking therapy is an excellent choice. It will be hard to go through but imagine the peace that you WILL find. Your body is not your soul therefore a predator cannot take that which is the best part of you. I have been finding peace since I threw out my anger. I have been finding self-acceptance since I cut the ropes that bound me. It is possible.. IT IS POSSIBLE! Work through your normal feelings, feel the anger that you have and when you are ready let it go… just as easy as that.. let it go. I just want to really impress on you that your feelings are normal. No matter how violent you feel towards the offender. Your feelings are normal! I wish you Peace. FindingPeace
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Message 124884
Posted by Rachel
on Jan 13, 2004 02:11 AM | Also by Rachel
| Gender: Female,
Age Bracket: 40 - 49,
State: N/A,
Country: Australia |
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124717, alone, Jan 11, 2004 02:09 PM [Alone and Scared an.....need support]
124751, Silverthorne, Jan 11, 2004 07:36 PM
124795, dp1, Jan 12, 2004 02:12 AM [Victims No Longer]
124796, steve, Jan 12, 2004 02:25 AM
124813, Silverthorne, Jan 12, 2004 06:41 AM [Reviews]
124806, anti, Jan 12, 2004 06:02 AM [tell me more...]
124884, Rachel, Jan 13, 2004 02:11 AM
124963, FindingPeace, Jan 13, 2004 09:13 PM [you are normal]
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