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Message 123119 (In Reply to Message 123080)
I hear your pain

Posted by tryingtosurvive on Dec 15, 2003 05:20 PM | Also by tryingtosurvive

Gender: Male, Age Bracket: 40 - 49, State: N/A, Country: Australia

Dear myoung,

I too have found support and understanding from this forum which seems the unlikeliest of places. Before the spectre of sex crimes found itself a part of my life I never thought I would confer with peadophiles and victims and those unwittingly involved in the spinning knives of this whole aspect of the human condition.

Though you dont know me I hope that my "Listening" brings you some solace. My thoughts are with you and I will not comment on the specifics of your case because I am in no position to begin to imagine what you might be going through.

On the specifics of the stress you are experiencing and it's physical manifestations may I suggest Martial Arts training ? A reputable and spiritually oriented Karate Do Jo might provde a way of channelling your Chi and healing your body. The initail meditation session calms and clears the mind and the ensuing workout focuses and cleans your muscles and burns off the "bad blood" it can sublimate anger and engender feelings of kinship with your fellow Karateka. Maybe Tai Chi would be more appropraite - just be carefull you dont find yourself amoung a destructive or agressive " block head " school.

Just a thought - it works for me.

Whatever happens I wish you and your loved ones Peace and Healing.

Regards

TTS

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Message 123080
ladyjane

Posted by myoung on Dec 14, 2003 03:16 PM | Also by myoung

Gender: N/A, Age Bracket: N/A, State: Pennsylvania, Country: United States

I cannot express enough my deep sorrow for how helpless i feel.  I have felt helpless since that horrilble day in 1991when my (first born)3.5 year old daughter told my very new boyfriend (who would eventually become my husband) that what comes out of daddy's pee pee is white, sticky and tastes yucky!!  That happened after one of her weekend visits with her father (whom I was separated from at the time).  Then to have a tenant come to live in my building who lied on his application about his felony record of aggravated assault (leaving out the indecent assault part.....raping a two year old should have been aggravated rape.....gee, but it was the first time he'd been caught so I guess they let him off a bit easy with 4 lousy years in jail) but anyway, then my 2 3/4 year old telling us of the neighbors misdeeds and now the prosecutor.  Not to mention the fact that I have to live 50 yards away from my daughter's offender and see him frequently........there is a lot of blood I'd like to see just for the pure satisfaction of justice being served righteously.  It's so sad when I read about people who are charged with crimes that definitely could have been "true" misunderstandings or misinterpretations of behavior or whatever (like orolan).  Then you have cases like what I have experienced where there is a lot of evidence or the guilty party actually pleads guilty and they get smacked on their patties and told not to do it again where the other misunderstood person gets 20 years in prison (placed on a registry) for something they didn't actually do but got caught up in the consequences of hysteria and/or paranoia.  I am at a loss for feelings right now.  I just feel numb.  In PA, quite readily puts the constitutional rights of a criminal before the  importance of those of a child.  I spoke to the auditor general's official spokesman on Wednesday this week and to my surprise, he actually made that statement as well.  He had a meeting with Laura Ahearn the next day (she is the president of parents for megans law)That's pretty awful knowing that he recognizes this too and agrees.  Get this, the motto of PA is "PA puts children 1st".  Haaaa....what a joke.  My husband is a teacher and he knows that isn't true.  His budget is slashed every year and he gets more and more students in a classroom that only safely houses 18 kids.  He cannot give quality education to the 25-27 they try to smoosh into his classroom.  He is a technology teacher and has a lot of dangerous tools and equipment.  He rated his classroom at 18 students for safety and the district wholeheartedly agreed due to the nature of his teaching and the tools involved.  They really don't give two craps about the kids....they like to appear as if they do......and of course it sounds great to have others believe that's the intention....but that's about all it is (image, perception).  It really comes down to the almighty dollar.  My school district has the lowest math scores of all the high schools in the nation...yet, I live in a very high taxed area with 1/2 to 3/4 million dollar homes and up.  I am trying to get passed my anger and this venting really does help so I thank everyone on the forum for "listening".  i see my therapist on Tuesday's and we do acupuncture, biofeedback and all that good stuff but now it has turned from emotional stress to physical stress.  The muscles in my neck and shoulders won't even let go anymore (they are rock solid knots).  I need to find an outlet for this but I am not sure what to do.....any suggestions?

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122933, myoung, Dec 11, 2003 06:18 PM [Just don't get it anymore]
      122963, Silverthorne, Dec 11, 2003 11:43 PM
            122978, myoung, Dec 12, 2003 05:45 AM [silver]
                  123000, Silverthorne, Dec 12, 2003 03:48 PM
                        123002, myoung, Dec 12, 2003 04:31 PM [I haven't a clue]
      123006, mouseinawheel, Dec 12, 2003 07:34 PM
            123017, myoung, Dec 12, 2003 08:23 PM [yep]
                  123036, Silverthorne, Dec 13, 2003 04:19 AM
                        123041, myoung, Dec 13, 2003 06:45 AM [silver]
                              123048, ladyjane, Dec 13, 2003 04:25 PM [Wow, myoung. I seem to have hear...]
                                    123080, myoung, Dec 14, 2003 03:16 PM [ladyjane]
                                          123119, tryingtosurvive, Dec 15, 2003 05:20 PM [I hear your pain]
                                    123081, Rejected
      124372, myoung, Jan 06, 2004 11:53 PM [isn't this nice.....]
            124808, anti, Jan 12, 2004 06:12 AM [to myoung...]
                  124967, FindingPeace, Jan 13, 2004 10:04 PM [as you should be]

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