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Message 123036 (In Reply to Message 123017)

Posted by Silverthorne on Dec 13, 2003 04:19 AM | Also by Silverthorne

Gender: Male, Age Bracket: N/A, State: Arizona, Country: United States

Well this boy certainly has some unhealthy sexuality going on. I'm frankly very surprised they didnt run him thru the system THEN recommend treatment. Even if they gave him probation I think its important he has the record. Do you know if they called it a stay of imposition or something? Where if he completes the treatment and has no other offenses there is no record? Or did they really not charge him with anything?

I ask because they really couldn't force him to treatment WITHOUT charging him. Double check I think you'll find some kind of plea agreement did take place. One that would guarantee he has no record if he completes his therapy and probation.

Silverthorne

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Message 123017
yep

Posted by myoung on Dec 12, 2003 08:23 PM | Also by myoung

Gender: N/A, Age Bracket: N/A, State: Pennsylvania, Country: United States

I did fill out a victim impact statement.  That came from the victim/witness advocates shortly after the complaint was filed.  My issue really isn't my daughter (she is slowly bringing her recollections of it and talking about it to a halt.....thank God.  It was hard to hear over and over again from her little mouth)  so much as it is the boy and his lack of understanding of what he's done.  My other two children are suffering far more than I.  The older brother of this boy asks my son if he wants rides home from the bus stop and school on a regular basis.  He usually does this while the offender is right there in the car with him.  I have always been concerned about the older boy because he was always very aggressive with my older daughter.  I had a talk with him about it but he just never realized when he was being inappropriate and continued the behavior despite my request.  My daughter is afraid of him.  She is now 15 and he is 18 and she just tries to never be where he is.  They seem to disregard our feelings completely especially with regard to this situation.  I was approached at my mailbox by the (offender) boy and he tried to make light conversation.  My son runs into him all day long at school when classes are changing (he's tried taking different routes but he ends up being late for class....he has talked with his counselor about it.   I think it stinks!  We have spent a lot of years gutting our house and making it our home with our own hands and now I just feel like moving.  The family lives directly next door.  I see them all the time.  It is very uncomfortable.  My son has also witnessed this boy on the bus sitting with elementary (catholic school) girls that share the public schoolbus home.  He was touching their hands (trying to hold them), giving them high fives (there were seats available with children his age but he specifically chose their seat).  The family act as if nothing has happened.  I worry that my daughter was not the first and won't be the last.  When we (my husband and myself) confronted him about the event in front of his parents, I specifically asked him if he had access to other children of her age group and he said yes.  I asked him boys or girs and he said both.  His mother just gasped.  He knew what I meant when I said access and so did she.  He admitted it and nothing else was done.   He is to have a year of therapy and probabtion and then a review at the end of that year.  I don't discuss it in front of or with my now 3 year old.  This happened two months shy of her 3rd bday.  Once in a while she'll make a comment but they are becoming more rare.  I know she won't be scarred by this.  I am worried about this boy and whether he is being molested by someon.  I am also just plain disgusted that this is the fourth time in my life I have encountered this including my tenant and now the DA.  When does the madness end?  I think the DA was improper and should not have been trying cases while he was still an active alcoholic and apparently an active child  molester by the sound of it.  I am a recovered alcoholic myself and I know I was never in a position to make good decisions/judgements until I was alcohol free for a long time.  It just impairs your everyday thinking even when you aren't drinking (reality is always a little distorted).  He was just elected judge.  He shouldn't be sitting in judgement of anyone right now or maybe never.

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122933, myoung, Dec 11, 2003 06:18 PM [Just don't get it anymore]
      122963, Silverthorne, Dec 11, 2003 11:43 PM
            122978, myoung, Dec 12, 2003 05:45 AM [silver]
                  123000, Silverthorne, Dec 12, 2003 03:48 PM
                        123002, myoung, Dec 12, 2003 04:31 PM [I haven't a clue]
      123006, mouseinawheel, Dec 12, 2003 07:34 PM
            123017, myoung, Dec 12, 2003 08:23 PM [yep]
                  123036, Silverthorne, Dec 13, 2003 04:19 AM
                        123041, myoung, Dec 13, 2003 06:45 AM [silver]
                              123048, ladyjane, Dec 13, 2003 04:25 PM [Wow, myoung. I seem to have hear...]
                                    123080, myoung, Dec 14, 2003 03:16 PM [ladyjane]
                                          123119, tryingtosurvive, Dec 15, 2003 05:20 PM [I hear your pain]
                                    123081, Rejected
      124372, myoung, Jan 06, 2004 11:53 PM [isn't this nice.....]
            124808, anti, Jan 12, 2004 06:12 AM [to myoung...]
                  124967, FindingPeace, Jan 13, 2004 10:04 PM [as you should be]

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