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Forum: Victims and Survivors Corner
Thread (Discussion): Have there been any studies re: Women Pedifiles?
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Message 128401 (In Reply to Message 122808)
Reply to Silverthorne 122808 "HaHaShenanigans" defined
Posted by fidldedee
on Mar 10, 2004 12:22 AM | Also by fidldedee
| Gender: Female,
Age Bracket: 50 - 59,
State: California,
Country: United States |
What I knew, I witnesssed and didn't like her kissing my baby on the bottom part (many times) and refusing to stop when I said I didn't like it. I witnessed her while changing the diaper of an infant male she layed the baby naked on her bottom part (she on floor flat) and pretended to have sex. (This was when I was 14 yrs old and didn't have intelligence enough about sex to know this was wrong, but I remembered it when I had my own children and more sexual experience myself and I saw her behavior and was surprised when I got the courage to say somethng that she refused and not only once, but several times and I had to make a big issue of it and refuse to let her see my children, which was never understood and "goofawed" by my mother, aunts and rest of family.
Another time one of her child care boys, 4 years old used a long radish to symbolize a penis on the outside of his clothes and she laughed and said" oh he is just teasing". I taught him that. (it was meant to be funny, the radish was red). He tugged at me to look at it. Of coarse, I thought it was awful, but I said nothing and ignored it, but remembered it.
Since I did not see my sister much as my children grew up, I did not know what she had done after we were alienated. I believed it was just ignorance, but she challenged every child care routine I had with my own children and I could not let her in my home, but when they (especially my daughter) got older, she took my sister's side against me as did my husband. My daughter is very unstable as a grown up and never had children. I feel it was bacause this instability about sex was planted in her mind as a child.
She complained as an adolescent about my sister taking naked photographs and movies of her (which I had never seen) and wanted me to get them and destroy them because she did not want naked pictures of her anywhere even as a child.
As she got older she was more and more rebellious and claimed to be a lesbian, accused my son of being a homosexual,etc. in other words a real problem to the entire family except, she is still friends with my sister because she believes I don't like my sister.
My daughter is 48 years old now and we have no relationship. She uses illegal substancess cocaine, etc and shoplifts and lies a lot. I tried to get her out of jail once, but now I do not know where she is. She was a very bright precocious child and her life has left me really questioning my childrearing ability. I really should have questioned my sister sooner, but how was I to know this was wrong. Guess I learned to little too late and have to live with the consequences.
The biggest problem being my own family undermining my beliefs was the biggest problem and my husband who did the same. I divorced him way too late and should have divorced him sooner also because his lifestyle did not set a good example either.
Thanks for reading this. I do have a child carae license and find now that little children are very malable and really can be taught to tell people not to touch them in certain places. Sometimes they like to go into the bathroom with another playmate, but I am on to that game and playfully tell them they must leave the door open even if thye want to close it. When they close it, they get into the medicine cabinet etc or sometimes explore one another.. So, what's a parent
or care giver to do. I don't want to be a prude, but I don't want to be too permissive either.
Thank goodness, I don't do much child care anymore, I am in nursing now with adults who have their own strange behaviors.
Fidldedee
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Message 122808
Posted by Silverthorne
on Dec 08, 2003 02:16 AM | Also by Silverthorne
| Gender: Male,
Age Bracket: N/A,
State: Arizona,
Country: United States |
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122800, fidldedee, Dec 07, 2003 04:51 PM [Have there been any studies re: Women Pedifiles?]
122802, dp1, Dec 07, 2003 05:13 PM [Welcome]
122806, Rejected
122808, Silverthorne, Dec 08, 2003 02:16 AM
122812, dp1, Dec 08, 2003 03:51 AM [Fondling?]
128401, fidldedee, Mar 10, 2004 12:22 AM [Reply to Silverthorne 122808 "HaHaShenani...]
128465, Silverthorne, Mar 10, 2004 05:32 PM
122835, mouseinawheel, Dec 09, 2003 02:32 AM
128505, Rejected
128723, KG448, Mar 15, 2004 06:37 PM [You did the right thing]
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