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Message 125452 (In Reply to Message 125024)
maybe

Posted by poetsdreamscape on Jan 18, 2004 12:25 PM | Also by poetsdreamscape

Gender: Male, Age Bracket: N/A, State: N/A, Country: United States

Try sending your information to the state attorney generals office if you feel you are not getting the help you need , I garuntee you if what you are seing is truthful and really want to prevent him from harming anyone they will find out easily , you say he is meeting young girls on the internet so im supposing its in chat rooms , he can easily be identified in a chat room with proper information and they can view his actions and if anything he does is illegal they got him , a lot of chat rooms are monitered by law enforcement these days. see where I am going with this

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Message 125024
You need support and guidance

Posted by steve on Jan 14, 2004 04:33 PM | Also by steve

Gender: Male, Age Bracket: N/A, State: Virginia, Country: United States

h7482, I'm sorry to hear about those developments in your situation.  Be persistent.  Don't give up hope that justice will be served.  I recommend contacting the authorities regularly, asking for status updates and ask how you can help the investigation, what they need to arrest him and what you can do to help them get to that point.  Document everything - what your husband has done, who you've talked to in law enforcement (names, dates, summaries of what you said, what they said) and how it has effected you.

Continue to collect evidence of his online activities and any offline activities.  Check your phone records for anything suspicious.  Look to see whether he has a cell phone or pager you don't know about.  A civil suit is a possibility, though I don't know that it will help ensure he doesn't sexually assault anyone, view child pornography or engage in other illegal activity.  You mentioned that he got counseling from a Christian counselor and that it was pretty much a joke.  Continue to push him for counseling from an appropriate professional.

I seem to recall that he's living in a different part of the house or in a motorhome on your property.  Apologies if I'm confusing you with someone else.  Am I correct?  Can you give us a status update?

I'm disgusted that he didn't even tell his own mother you were in the hospital.  I am concerned about your well-being.  Are you ok?  Please reply here or let me know privately by sending me a private message (see the menu at top of page).

<blockquote><span class="mb-quote">I am stuck in such a bad place that even death looked good.</span></blockquote>

It's not your fault.  Please, please, please see someone about your depression.  You need someone to talk to who you are comfortable talking to - whether that's people here in the Victims' Corner, a forum online somewhere else, a face to face support group, a phone hotline or a professional therapist of some kind.  Your husband has a problem and it's understandably affecting you.  You can't undo the damage he's done.  But you can do what you can to help limit the likelihood it'll happen again, help the authorities even if they aren't willing or able to do what's required and most important of all take care of yourself.

I hope you'll update us on your status.  And I hope you'll get yourself help.  I know there are people here who care about you and are here to offer you support.  You're definitely in my thoughts.

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121273, h7482, Nov 08, 2003 04:02 AM
      121275, dp1, Nov 08, 2003 04:21 AM [How About Help?]
            121277, h7482, Nov 08, 2003 04:28 AM
                  121281, dp1, Nov 08, 2003 04:50 AM [Counselor]
                        121283, dp1, Nov 08, 2003 05:10 AM
                              121298, h7482, Nov 08, 2003 06:17 AM
                        121297, h7482, Nov 08, 2003 06:09 AM
                              121306, dp1, Nov 08, 2003 02:41 PM [Don't Get Frustrated]
                                    121315, h7482, Nov 08, 2003 06:04 PM
                                          121345, dp1, Nov 09, 2003 05:00 AM [Don't Blame You]
                                                121348, h7482, Nov 09, 2003 06:54 AM
                  121316, myoung, Nov 08, 2003 06:11 PM [wow.....]
                        121349, h7482, Nov 09, 2003 07:21 AM
      121353, tessa, Nov 09, 2003 10:57 AM
            121382, h7482, Nov 10, 2003 06:24 AM
                  125004, anti, Jan 14, 2004 07:36 AM [h7482]
            121383, h7482, Nov 10, 2003 06:33 AM
                  121399, tessa, Nov 11, 2003 01:20 AM [to h7482]
                        121519, h7482, Nov 13, 2003 06:35 AM
                              125006, anti, Jan 14, 2004 07:41 AM [new to you..]
                        125005, anti, Jan 14, 2004 07:40 AM [tessa, thank you...]
                  121411, PVulcan, Nov 11, 2003 09:05 AM
                        121423, dp1, Nov 11, 2003 05:01 PM [No Problem with Divorce]
                              121521, h7482, Nov 13, 2003 07:04 AM
                                    121531, dp1, Nov 13, 2003 02:20 PM [True]
                                          121858, h7482, Nov 19, 2003 04:45 AM
                        121520, h7482, Nov 13, 2003 06:51 AM
            125003, anti, Jan 14, 2004 07:35 AM [to tessa]
      121593, DoTheCrimeDoTheTime, Nov 15, 2003 01:30 AM [Take a Stand]
            121644, Silverthorne, Nov 15, 2003 11:41 PM
                  121656, dp1, Nov 16, 2003 01:57 AM
                        121662, Silverthorne, Nov 16, 2003 03:32 AM
                              122200, katie, Nov 23, 2003 06:56 AM [both]
                                    122209, Silverthorne, Nov 23, 2003 04:09 PM
                        121667, ladyjane, Nov 16, 2003 03:47 AM [I understand.]
                              121684, dp1, Nov 16, 2003 05:34 PM [True]
                              121860, h7482, Nov 19, 2003 05:08 AM
                                    122058, ladyjane, Nov 21, 2003 03:57 AM [Well shoot.]
                                    122059, TGoodman, Nov 21, 2003 04:42 AM [I know how you feel also]
                  121859, h7482, Nov 19, 2003 04:49 AM
                        121866, dp1, Nov 19, 2003 11:39 AM [Release Forms]
                              121912, Silverthorne, Nov 19, 2003 05:18 PM
                                    122003, h7482, Nov 20, 2003 07:27 AM
                              122002, h7482, Nov 20, 2003 07:16 AM
                                    122009, dp1, Nov 20, 2003 01:07 PM [I concur]
                                    122022, Silverthorne, Nov 20, 2003 05:24 PM
                                          122368, firefly42, Nov 27, 2003 04:12 AM [similar but different sit...]
                                                122413, PVulcan, Nov 27, 2003 10:21 PM [Civil System]
                                                      122420, Silverthorne, Nov 27, 2003 11:02 PM
                                                            123409, h7482, Dec 20, 2003 10:55 PM
                                                                  125024, steve, Jan 14, 2004 04:33 PM [You need support ...]
                                                                        125452, poetsdreamscape, Jan 18, 2004 12:25 PM [maybe]
      124986, ListenLearnAndLove, Jan 14, 2004 02:32 AM

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Thread (Discussion): Frustrated with the system

Message 125452 (In Reply to Message 125024)
maybe

Message 125024
You need support and guidance