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Message 120455 (In Reply to Message 120436)
Call the cops

Posted by Silverthorne on Oct 25, 2003 03:57 AM | Also by Silverthorne

Gender: Male, Age Bracket: N/A, State: Arizona, Country: United States

Ladyjane,

You really can't blame yourself. Homosexual behavior (with legal age partners) is in no way "evidence" someone could molest a child.

In that respect you really had no way of knowing what he was doing. But when he started showering affection and attention on this boy you had an obligation to speak up.

You choice is clear now. You must talk to the police.

Your under no obligation to protect this man..... .30 years or not.

Silverthorne

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Message 120436
Call 911

Posted by dp1 on Oct 25, 2003 01:22 AM | Also by dp1

Gender: Female, Age Bracket: N/A, State: Florida, Country: United States

Ladyjane,
Husband or no husband...if you think this man might have molested a child call the police now! I am afraid it might look like you've been hiding something particularly since you know he spent time with this child and spoke to his parents about his statements. Call the police and tell them about your conversations with the child's mother and ask them if they are investigating him. Don't wait for them to hunt you and him down just for them to find out later you knew...looks bad sweetie. Clear the air and take control. There is no way in the world that I'd tell him or anyone else. The police need to take him by surprise before he has a chance to hurt someone else or himself. He's not going to admit it to you or to your children so don't waste time....the next victim is being targeted as we speak. There is no logical reason to cover up or excuse a child molester's actions...they are irrational and very dangerous. You have to take the right steps now to ensure that guilt does not overcome you while he's serving his prison sentence. Good luck and see a therapist if you must to assist you in staying strong and making good decisions.

P.S. Even if you can't muster up the strength to call the police on him then you must realize they will eventually track him down. Whatever you do please do not start fighting with him or having marital arguments with him - they will only enrage him at this time. This is a police matter not a marital issue. I wouldn't tell the children till he was safely behind bars.

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120417, ladyjane, Oct 24, 2003 06:48 PM [This is a long story, sorry.]
      120418, steve, Oct 24, 2003 07:08 PM [Get counseling for yourself, stay strong]
      120419, tessa, Oct 24, 2003 07:46 PM [Please listen.]
      120420, tessa, Oct 24, 2003 07:51 PM [Sorry]
            120426, orolan, Oct 24, 2003 10:39 PM
            120431, PVulcan, Oct 24, 2003 11:17 PM
                  120435, SurvivorForever, Oct 25, 2003 12:49 AM [Lady]
      120436, dp1, Oct 25, 2003 01:22 AM [Call 911]
            120455, Silverthorne, Oct 25, 2003 03:57 AM [Call the cops]
      120459, myoung, Oct 25, 2003 05:01 AM [just a question, not a criticism]
            120464, steve, Oct 25, 2003 01:17 PM
                  120479, myoung, Oct 25, 2003 09:12 PM [oops, didn't even notice]
                        120480, ladyjane, Oct 25, 2003 10:50 PM [Not from CA - I must have goofed.]
                              120483, steve, Oct 25, 2003 11:26 PM [Leaving home may be temporary]
                                    120510, ladyjane, Oct 26, 2003 03:08 PM [Leaving would be a matter of ...]
                                          120517, orolan, Oct 26, 2003 04:59 PM
                              120557, myoung, Oct 27, 2003 12:51 PM [mixed bag]

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Thread (Discussion): Married to a molester?

Message 120455 (In Reply to Message 120436)
Call the cops

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Call 911