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Thread (Discussion): needing help - Re: needing help
Message 118254
needing help
Posted by x_troubled
on Oct 14, 2003 09:00 PM | Also by x_troubled
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I may have had sex with a 12 year old 3 years ago but don't know because I was into drugs heavily back then. well she has a 3 year old daughter that she is saying is mine....... what should i do???? I am 26 years old right now. I did not want this to happen and I am scared to death of going to jail. I know that I should not have done the drugs back then but I was young at the time and I had just found out that my wife was cheating on me and I turned to the drugs for an exscape for dealing with the problems back then. can someone tell me what is going to happen if that child is mine????
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Message 118257 (In Reply to Message 118254)
Re: needing help
Posted by x_SurvivorForeve
on Oct 15, 2003 01:36 AM | Also by x_SurvivorForeve
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Face the truth.
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Message 118260 (In Reply to Message 118254)
Silverthorne gets tough!!
Posted by x_Silverthorne
on Oct 15, 2003 03:03 AM | Also by x_Silverthorne
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I guess I'm a little disturbed you don't even know if you "did this" or not.
May have had sex with a 12 year old? How is "may" part of this equation. You either did it or you didn't and you know what you did. Your fear of having a 3 year old child indicates you know you did this (correct?????).
If you were 23 and she was 12 your guilty of criminal sexual conduct with a minor no matter which state your in. Jail is honestly the least of your problems.
You need to own up to what you did. Drugs and your wife cheating may have caused some stress in your life but that never justifies something like this.
You need to ask yourself if your man enough to take responsibility for what you did. Father or not 12 years old is a serious crime.
Silverthorne
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Message 118264 (In Reply to Message 118254)
Re: needing help
Posted by x_PVulcan
on Oct 15, 2003 05:09 AM | Also by x_PVulcan
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Drugs and alcohol don't give anyone a greenlight. I would imagine you'll find your butt in a sling if the child is yours. She was 12?? and you were 23???? Not that much drugs in the world to justify that! You should be locked up.
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Message 118268 (In Reply to Message 118260)
Re: Silverthorne gets tough!!
Posted by x_anti
on Oct 15, 2003 09:37 AM | Also by x_anti
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ty silver, your post has made me happy.
great post, peace anti
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Message 118281 (In Reply to Message 118264)
Re: needing help
Posted by x_TessaW
on Oct 15, 2003 11:45 AM | Also by x_TessaW
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PVulcan and all the others who answered ,well said.Drugs or not, there is no!!!!!!!!!!!!! excuse for molesting a child.
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Message 118288 (In Reply to Message 118254)
Re: needing help
Posted by x_DP1
on Oct 15, 2003 07:48 PM | Also by x_DP1
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Troubled,
I was just wondering about a few things. Why 3 years after the baby is born is the mother coming forward and attempting to identify the father? Is she attempting to collect child support? I mean, what are the motives? The reason I mention this is because you also have an obligation to pay child support if the child is yours. Prosecuting you or putting you in jail for a sex charge might be the last thing on her mind. If I was you I would own up to your responsibility, cooperate with DNA testing to determine if the baby is yours, if it is then start paying child support. My point is that if she is just trying to collect money, and you run from her because you are afraid of going to jail on a sex charge, then you may very well end up in jail.
Using drugs or having maritial problems is no justifiable reason to sexually offending a young girl. Whether or not you go to jail you should seek some counseling. There are plenty of responsible sex offenders and pedophiles who post on this site. You could probably get some good feedback from them on where or how to look for a good therapist. Good luck.
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Message 118355 (In Reply to Message 118288)
Re: needing help
Posted by x_Mark
on Oct 20, 2003 08:13 AM | Also by x_Mark
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Plenty of responsible sex offenders and pedophiles, what the .... are you talking about!
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Message 118359 (In Reply to Message 118254)
Re: needing help Blunt Honesty....
Posted by x_Victim
on Oct 20, 2003 01:22 PM | Also by x_Victim
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What do you, do now? What about the girl raising the baby?
Just a suggestion:
Step 1: Enroll in Narcotics Anonymous or other maintenance drug
program....
Step 2: Get a DNA test, NOW!
Step 3: Get a Pysch. Dr. to help you deal w/ mental healing of
your loss of you ex and this situation as well....
Step 4: Get a Very Good Attorney....
(If your the daddy)
Step 5: A.Don't bother to pack your bags....
B.Kiss your butt goodbye....
Because:
"Your going to Jail"....... Whether you were on drugs or not you had no right to have intercourse with a child and no jury will let you walk on this.
Secondly, while your sitting in Jail thinking about what you did, you will feel alone and you will (like all other men in jail) confide in a "pal" that you think you can trust.
You, like all other perps, will be hurt by the men in jail whom were drug users are possible daddy's themselves that never engaged in sex with a "LITTLE" girl.
What did you see in this child? Stop blaming what you did on drugs, there are drug users and depressed people that walk this Earth everyday that are "Not" Perps.....
You need to take responsibility for your crime and stop trying to justify you actions. Just imagine, What if you were that girls Father...what would you do to the "Man" that screwed your "Baby" and robbed her of her childhood?
You need to be scared, remorseful, and you need help. I just hope in your case it does not come in the form of a bullet or gang bang.
On the Briter Side:
(If your not the daddy)
A.Follow steps 1.,3. and 5. Keep in mind it should not
matter what terrible thing happens to you life...
you should ever consider sleeping with a child.
B.Oh and Keep your penis in your pants if you feel you
have the potential of being a perp.
Sign,
Victim
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Message 118360 (In Reply to Message 118355)
Re: needing help
Posted by x_orolan
on Oct 20, 2003 02:18 PM | Also by x_orolan
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Mark,
What part of his statement do you not understand? I believe it is quite clear what he is talking about.
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Message 118366 (In Reply to Message 118360)
Responsible Pedophiles
Posted by x_DP1
on Oct 20, 2003 08:12 PM | Also by x_DP1
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Orolan, I think Mark is new to this board so let me elaborate. Mark, what I meant by responsible is that on this site there are both pedophiles and sex offenders. Most of the pedophiles on this board are very much aware of their attraction to children but claim to not act on their desires. Some have admitted to seeking professional help for their problem. We also have convicted sex offenders on this board. Some have completed their probation and treatment and have lived their lives crime free. Others are pursuing treatment and are on probation as we speak. Although discussions on this board can be sometimes distasteful and deviant (just being honest), all of the posters here have expressed that they are against child abuse and are working towards a crime free life.
So what I suggested to the original author of this thread was to persue treatment and could seek help from some of the other folks on this board that are taking their responsibilities seriously. Just because someone is a sex offender or a pedophile doesn't automatically mean that they haven't corrected the problem and have taken back control of their lives.
DP1
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Message 118386 (In Reply to Message 118254)
Re: needing help
Posted by x_michaelhartman
on Oct 23, 2003 04:19 AM | Also by x_michaelhartman
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You said that you may have had sex? Well the reality is that if you did no amount of drugs is going to be an excuse. I wouls recommend that you look for an attorney that is rated in law journals as competent in both federal and state laws of the state youlive in for starters. Next thing to do is excersise your right to remain silent if you should become arrested and let the lawyers work for you, in america you are innocent till proven guilty and if you are the father that will remove all doubt. But with an experienced attorney you may be able to get a reduced sentence to probation. If you have any other victims you will want to expose that as well because im sure it will be found out. In the mean time if you do know that you did it don't wait. There are legal bills that will need to be paid and depending on the state law you may have to alter your living arragements and its best to be prepared for all of that.another thing I would suggest you do is go into a treatment program for sex offenders before trial if you know your guilty. that will help with tthe sentencing as well.....
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118254, x_troubled, Oct 14, 2003 09:00 PM [needing help]
118257, x_SurvivorForeve, Oct 15, 2003 01:36 AM [Re: needing help]
118260, x_Silverthorne, Oct 15, 2003 03:03 AM [Silverthorne gets tough!!]
118268, x_anti, Oct 15, 2003 09:37 AM [Re: Silverthorne gets tough!!]
118264, x_PVulcan, Oct 15, 2003 05:09 AM [Re: needing help]
118281, x_TessaW, Oct 15, 2003 11:45 AM [Re: needing help]
118288, x_DP1, Oct 15, 2003 07:48 PM [Re: needing help]
118355, x_Mark, Oct 20, 2003 08:13 AM [Re: needing help]
118360, x_orolan, Oct 20, 2003 02:18 PM [Re: needing help]
118366, x_DP1, Oct 20, 2003 08:12 PM [Responsible Pedophiles]
118359, x_Victim, Oct 20, 2003 01:22 PM [Re: needing help Blunt Honesty....]
118386, x_michaelhartman, Oct 23, 2003 04:19 AM [Re: needing help]
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