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Message 118231 (In Reply to Message 118229)
Re: No Alternatives = Molesting Kids?

Posted by x_Silverthorne on Oct 14, 2003 03:36 PM | Also by x_Silverthorne

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I believe "yes" it is possible for someone to have no alternatives and not act out. I for one would love to coach hockey again. I've got several championship rings from a very high level of hockey and played since I was four years old (I still remember being pushed out onto the ice at the arena by my mom). So I have alot to give and am a very accomplished coach.

Could I coach? Yes. Could I coach and not molest boys? Yes. Should I coach? Proably not.

Why not? Because I don't need the added stress. In my case while I'm sure I'm safe I find my biggest problem dealing with pedophilia is a lack of self esteem. I tend to beat myself up over it alot and become very hard on myself. If I do coach and find the boys attractive I may start with the "your garbage for thinking like that" again. I don't need the stress.

So you see not going around kids for me doesn't have anything to do with keeping kids safe. Because of my morals and beliefs I won't abuse them. But it has EVERYTHING to do with keeping my mental health on track.

Silverthorne

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Message 118229
Re: No Alternatives = Molesting Kids?

Posted by x_orolan on Oct 14, 2003 03:06 PM | Also by x_orolan

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Silver,
Certainly a good question and concept. From my experiences in talking to people, I recall one story with some relevance.

There is a man I know who has not had sex in 14 years. His sister contracted AIDS and died from it. Since she died, he has been terrified of the possibility of contracting it himself.
Since 1989 he has satisfied his sexual needs through masturbation, using pornography as a stimulus. The pornography he views does not contain actual depictions of sex, but many of the poses are quite suggestive. He has contact with women, and even goes out on dates with them. The women are actually happy to go out for a night on the town without the added "pressures" of a sexual tryst afterwords. These outings apparently satisfy his needs for interaction with members of the opposite sex.

I guess my question/point here would be, "Is it possible for a pedophile to do the same thing, including frequent interaction with children, and not actually commit an offense?" 
What is it about this man that makes this possible? Is his fear that great, that it can fully overcome any desire for physical intimacy? Can "fear" have the same effect on a pedophile? If it were legal, could child soft-porn be a viable tool to prevent offenses, or would it "fuel" the desire as some claim it does?

Just throwing it out for discussion. Your thoughts?

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118222, x_Silverthorne, Oct 14, 2003 01:07 PM [No Alternatives = Molesting Kids?]
      118229, x_orolan, Oct 14, 2003 03:06 PM [Re: No Alternatives = Molesting Kids?]
            118231, x_Silverthorne, Oct 14, 2003 03:36 PM [Re: No Alternatives = Molesting Kids?]
            118241, x_Rob, Oct 14, 2003 05:22 PM [Re: No Alternatives = Molesting Kids?]
            118313, x_TessaW, Oct 16, 2003 04:14 PM [Re: No Alternatives = Molesting Kids?]
                  118315, x_orolan, Oct 16, 2003 07:23 PM [Re: No Alternatives = Molesting Kids?]
                  118322, x_Silverthorne, Oct 17, 2003 02:29 AM [Excuse me?]
            118356, x_Mark, Oct 20, 2003 08:25 AM [Re: No Alternatives = Molesting Kids?]
      118419, x_Sisco, Oct 27, 2003 10:30 AM [Re: No Alternatives = Molesting Kids?]

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