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Thread (Discussion): unfair sex registration(thankyou) - Re: Rights of victims (thank you)
Message 100069
unfair sex registration(thankyou)
Posted by x_laurenceandsun
on Feb 26, 2001 03:35 PM | Also by x_laurenceandsun
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We both would like to thank you for all of your stories and comments. It has really showed us that people do listen and understand the situation. I,(Sunshine), personally feel that it is time to take this to a higher power. I have heard so many of you talk about be victims and survivers of rape and mollestation. I too was raped as a child. The guys that did this to me were never made to register. They are now walking the streets and I have no protection from them whatsoever. I feel that yes people should have to register but there shoiuld be a summery of their charges and they should have the right top respond to thoise charges and registratrions. We do have a unique case and it isnt normally that the guy marries a girl that he was placed in jail for. They normally run as far away from them as possible. But, Lawrence is a good person that would never do such a thing> He is also a victim of a vindictive and munipulative person. Of all people it was his step-mother that had these charges placved against him. She was so eager to get him away from his father that this (i guess) was the best thing that she could do to get him far away. His father ,to this day, still has not seen the papers proving that his wife did these things to his son. He doesnt want to see the truth. There are also two(almost three), victims in this case that i would like to mention that is our children. We give them love support stibility and pride in their family. But one day they will have to know that their Daddy has these ugly charges and why. They arent going to understand that a god honest man like their daddy cant live close to their school. They arent going to understand when a girl wants toi spenmd the night and their parent s wont let them b/c of these things. They are the true victims that havent done an7y thing to deserve this! I think people should slow down and think before they react to all "sex offenders!" I do understand that people do need to be protected and that their are some very sick people that rapes and mollests little kids. I personaly would want to know if a pedifile was in my neighborhood so that my children were protected from them also. But there is a strong difference in a pedifile and two people that werent thinking of the consequences and created a child togethter that are now married(happily)and that are raising there children together to be better people than those that judge before they know all of the facts.
Once agasin, I want to thank everyone for listening to our story and all the replies that we have recieved. I am very sorry for those that are true vioctims and that have real fears of thoses that hurt them. And i am truely sorry for those that have fallen in the same boat as us.
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Message 100076 (In Reply to Message 100069)
Re: unfair sex registration(thankyou)
Posted by x_CarrieJohnson
on Mar 02, 2001 12:52 PM | Also by x_CarrieJohnson
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I totally agree that each case should be looked at on an individual basis. I also believe that there should be more than one registry. It's not fair to list every person on the same list regardless of the charges. There definitely needs to be a separate list for those convicted of Child Molesting, along with a short description of the charges. As you said, when people look at the Sexual Registration, they automatically think the worse. There are some very sick individuals in this world that the rest of their communities should know about, but what about the people that are put in the same category as they are? This is definitely not fair and there should be some kind of law preventing this from happening. A lot of people just see this list and can't keep an open mind that it may not be as it appears. But as far as our state goes they just lump everyone up into one ball. How would they feel if one of their own loved ones was on this list and everyone ridiculed them? I think at that point someone may try to change things. I know how people look at you even when your name doesn't appear on the list but a loved ones does. People just think that you are as bad as these people on the list and they have no idea of what happened. Thank you for this website. It does help a small amount to know that there are other people whom feel the same as you. Carrie Johnson CT
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Message 100115 (In Reply to Message 100069)
Re: Rights of victims (thank you)
Posted by x_Glen
on Apr 17, 2001 04:21 AM | Also by x_Glen
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I heard once that if one is convicted of urinating in public, that he must register as a sex offender. Is that true? I also believe that a sex offender registry should give some kind of details as to type of offence etc. I'm sure that there are some people out there who are registered sex offenders that were a victim of some kind of circumstance that had nothing to do w/ a violent sex act. Also, I believe there is too much emphasis on the rights of sex offenders (real ones) and their rehabilitation, w/ not enough emphasis on the rights of the victims. Mega-millions are spent on offenders, while the victims are forgotten. Victims are labled as hate mongers if they don't want to forgive their offender, or if they refuse to try to understand. Their rehabilitation is centered around learning to deal with what happened to them, rather than around justice. The victims of such crimes deserve justice regardless of the circumstances that caused the offender to do the deed in question, whether it be upbringing, abuse by parents etc. Remember this fact: The victim is one because of the act of the offender directly. The offender may be a victim of sorts, but not because of anything related to their offensive act. The victim of a sex crime is an "innocent" victim. The victim of upbringing, child abuse, etc. is no longer an "innocent" victim once they carry out their desires on their person of choice, but rather they are a "guilty" victim. Now the offender is no different than those who made them the victim, be it parents etc.! If all offenders received true justice (permanant incarceration or whatever might fit the crime), we would have less "guilty" victims and hence less "innocent" ones too. The cycle needs to be nipped at the bud!
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Message 100615 (In Reply to Message 100069)
Re: Rights of victims (thank you)
Posted by x_Nichole
on Dec 19, 2001 01:53 PM | Also by x_Nichole
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Depends on the state, it is public indecency. Some states make you register, others do not.
I don't agree with all that you say. Yes the cycle needs to be stopped. But you start with the problem. People need to be more compassionate instead of thinking me me me.
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100069, x_laurenceandsun, Feb 26, 2001 03:35 PM [unfair sex registration(thankyou)]
100076, x_CarrieJohnson, Mar 02, 2001 12:52 PM [Re: unfair sex registration(thankyou)]
100115, x_Glen, Apr 17, 2001 04:21 AM [Re: Rights of victims (thank you)]
100615, x_Nichole, Dec 19, 2001 01:53 PM [Re: Rights of victims (thank you)]
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