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Thread (Discussion): UNFAIR SEX REGISTRATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Message 100066 (In Reply to Message 100065)
You want to know whats not fair?
Posted by x_Gwen
on Feb 26, 2001 06:46 AM | Also by x_Gwen
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Just to establish this first ... I've been a "victim" of sexcrimes a few times (I say "victim" 'cause I have a hard time with the word sometimes but for lack of better on thats the one I have to use)
I feel sorry for the unfortunate ones who get "labeled" so to speek as a sex offender. And I would have to agree that this countries laws and legislative system is a bit "crooked," but the sex offender registration law (in my opinion) is a great tool for not only victims but society as well.
You want to know what REALLY isnt fair?
I grew up in foster care. My biological father raped me when I was all of 5 years old and then I went into foster care and my adoptive mothers boyfriend sexually abused me for 8+ years. When I "came out" about it my mother basically said "oh well." She didn't do "jack" about it and when I said that I wanted to prosecute him she called me a "selfish big mouth bitch." If my mother wasn't going to protect me from him who would? Many times he threatened me and I went on to prosecute him. It took almost three years from the time that I came out before we went to court. During that three years I think we had about 4 or 5 trial dates setup. He would say that he would plee and then literally a day or less away from the plee hearing he would change his mind and say that he wanted a trial. He did this like 5 times before a judge told him to make a final decision on what he wanted. So I was the on there with my life on hold for him. He had all the rights and I had none. Now tell me .... he was the criminal not me. And all the state could say to me when he kept jerking me around and changing the dates was "its his right." Well what the hell are my rights? That wasn't fair!
Then finally when we did get to court ... he got 3-6 years. THATS IT. And he not only abused me for 8 years but scarred me for life. When the court asked me what I though he should receive for a sentence my answer was "he should get at least 8 years because he took those years away from me... my child hood." So he gets 3-6 and you know what? He didn't even serve 3 years. Got out on good behavior. What the hell is that? Good behavior? What about those 8 years of bad behavior? Thats not fair!
Last but certainly not least. So he's in jail now for sexually molesting a 6 year old for 8 years. Now I am just about to graduate from High School. Thinking about going on to college because I don't want to be working at some burger joint or bagging groceries for the rest of my life. I want to be either a social worker or a victim-witness advocate. But I have no parents to speek of to help my way and I didn't get 1500 on my SAT's. So I am out of luck unless I want to be paying off student loans for the rest of my life. I was offered a little assistance. Guess who got a free ride. The same damn guy who is in jail for abusing me got a college degree while "being punished." Taxpayers paid for that bastard to get a law degree in jail and I, a law abiding citizen wanting to better myself to help society had to enlist in the Marine Corps 'cause that was the only way that I would get any significant assistance. NOW THATS NOT FAIR.
Its unfortunate that things are that way in this country. Like the woman said in an earlier thread ... its unfortunate that you get stuck with a label that you don't necessarily deserve. This law serves for the greater good.
When I learned that he was getting out of jail I wanted to run as far away as I could. This registration program allows me to know where he is without having any contact with him. It gives me at least a little more security in knowing that he is half the country away from me and IF he moves I can track where he is. Now I know that you cant protect people from everything always but at least when I have children I will know if some pedophile lurks next door or if one moves in ... in which case I wouldn't even let him play in the back yard alone.
Lastly... as I am sure that you are aware of or may have heard before many sex offenders, about 60-85% are repeat offenders. (depending on what source you use)
In conclusion ... yes the registration law does have a few little quirks that maybe should be amended. As does the rest of the legislative system ... but as its been said many times its definatly not a perfect world.
To the guy that started this thread... again I'm sorry that you get marked unfairly by this law but you have to admit that you are an unusual case ... representing about .01% of the sex offender population. Good luck with your wife and future. At least you have her ... think about it... could be a lot worse.
And to the mother ... I would agree with you that maybe the punishment for your son is a little harsh. And I DEFINATLY agree that the girl should be held responsible too! Guess your son should have thought twice...... these days you cant trust anyone. Just another reason not to have sex at such a young age I guess. I hope others see it as a message that you cant trust anyone these days and that maybe you should think twice before having sex just 'cause it feels good... especially at such a young age.
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Message 100065
RE: UNFAIR SEX REGISTRATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted by x_Betty
on Feb 26, 2001 12:21 AM | Also by x_Betty
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100032, x_LAURENCEHOWARD, Nov 19, 2000 07:11 PM [UNFAIR SEX REGISTRATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!]
100035, x_Shannen, Nov 21, 2000 02:17 PM [RE: UNFAIR SEX REGISTRATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!]
100053, x_JJ, Feb 15, 2001 05:08 PM [RE: UNFAIR SEX REGISTRATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!]
100056, x_fedup, Feb 20, 2001 06:01 PM [RE: UNFAIR SEX REGISTRATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!]
100057, x_fedup, Feb 20, 2001 06:15 PM [RE: UNFAIR SEX REGISTRATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!]
100060, Rejected
100061, Rejected
100062, x_survivor, Feb 24, 2001 01:55 AM [RE: UNFAIR SEX REGISTRATION!!!!!!!!!!...]
100063, x_thislawstinks, Feb 24, 2001 10:45 PM [RE: UNFAIR SEX REGISTRATION!!...]
100064, x_thislawstinks, Feb 24, 2001 10:45 PM [RE: UNFAIR SEX REGISTRATION!!...]
100242, x_ameed, Oct 20, 2001 07:32 AM [Re: Betty and Others]
100065, x_Betty, Feb 26, 2001 12:21 AM [RE: UNFAIR SEX REGISTRATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!]
100066, x_Gwen, Feb 26, 2001 06:46 AM [You want to know whats not fair?]
100067, Rejected
100070, x_JJ, Feb 27, 2001 01:32 PM [Re: You want to know whats not fair?]
100075, x_CC, Mar 01, 2001 03:14 AM [Re: You want to know whats not fair?]
100078, x_Betty, Mar 05, 2001 12:25 AM [Re: You want to know whats not fair?]
100079, x_Gwen, Mar 05, 2001 02:32 PM [Re: Betty and Others]
100338, x_NONE, Dec 05, 2001 03:46 AM [Re:you want to know whats not fair]
100341, x_Nichole, Dec 05, 2001 06:31 PM [Re:you want to know whats not fair]
100339, x_NONE, Dec 05, 2001 03:49 AM [Re:you want to know whats not fair]
100084, x_cathy, Mar 10, 2001 05:04 PM [Re: Betty and Others]
100186, x_alan, Jul 29, 2001 02:12 PM [Re: Betty and Others]
100088, x_wvtears, Mar 13, 2001 03:08 AM [Re: Betty and Others]
100163, x_angela, Jun 24, 2001 04:12 PM [Re: Betty and Others]
100096, x_RickFisher, Mar 24, 2001 06:57 PM [Re: Betty and Others]
100099, x_EdwardJones, Mar 29, 2001 08:03 PM [Re: Betty and Others]
100166, x_same, Jun 30, 2001 02:01 AM [Re: Betty and Others]
100336, x_prissy, Dec 05, 2001 02:29 AM [Re:you want to know whats not fair]
100337, x_NONE, Dec 05, 2001 03:30 AM [Re:you want to know whats not fair]
100100, x_EdwardJones, Mar 29, 2001 08:10 PM [Re: Betty and Others]
100103, x_robert, Apr 02, 2001 09:11 PM [Re: Betty and Others]
100167, x_same, Jun 30, 2001 02:02 AM [Re: Betty and Others]
100174, x_MarkLevenda, Jun 30, 2001 10:42 PM [Re: Betty and Others]
100214, x_EverybodymustR, Sep 26, 2001 03:39 PM [Re: Betty and Others]
100522, x_justin, Dec 17, 2001 01:47 PM [Re:you want to know whats not fair]
100562, x_Nichole, Dec 18, 2001 10:02 AM [Re:you want to know whats not fair]
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