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Forum: In the News

Thread (Discussion): [Tampa Bay's 10 News] Teacher Debra LaFave now a sex offender

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Message 169456 (In Reply to Message 169438)
pops


Posted by dp1 on Dec 14, 2005 02:39 PM | Also by dp1
Gender: Female, Age Bracket: N/A, State: Florida, Country: United States
Maybe my contributions would not be so priceless.


On the contrary Pops. I've often wondered what teachers are taught during their training program to become a teacher. Is their anything about healthy boundaries?

You could apply boundaries to any profession. There's really no way anyone could predict who has unhealthy boundaries until a vulnerable situation is upon the person. Let's say I am a bank teller with a moral upbringing. Then I find myself in a tight spot financially. I get drained emotionally. Somehow I start dreaming about the cash in my drawer. I listen to other tellers who tell secrets about taking money out of their drawer when they are over at the end of the day. Little by little I get worn down. I convince myself that taking cash out of the drawer is ok because other people do it. I've just set myself up to commit a crime, no?

Read some of the other threads in these forums. Listen to what the offenders are saying about teen sex. They are telling you straight up how they played the mental gymnastics and set themselves up for their crimes. It doesn't matter if the victim had sex before. Just like it doesn't matter if other tellers take money out of their drawer. It's a "No No" PERIOD. If the boudaries aren't in the right spot to begin with human nature is what it is.

I don't know what Debra's boundaries are in regards to physical attraction/sex with teens. If she didn't know herself and woke up one day and it occured to her she was sexually stimulated by teen boys she should have stopped right there and made a career choice. Nobody forced her to work with children. It's a choice she made to place herself in a position to commit a crime. This is what I find so disturbing about the lack of consequences with teachers in regards to sex crimes. If anything, the punishment should be equal to or greater to discourage adults with teen attractions from entering the field of teaching. Duh!

Also, what do teachers do to help each other maintain healthy boundaries? I suspect there's some enabling going on or a lack of awareness.

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Message 169438
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Posted by pop1 on Dec 14, 2005 07:14 AM | Also by pop1
Gender: Male, Age Bracket: N/A, State: Tennessee, Country: United States

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167830, admin, Nov 22, 2005 01:58 PM [Introduction]
      168421, pop1, Dec 02, 2005 05:26 AM [Does Debra understand the gravity of her situation?]
            168424, dp1, Dec 02, 2005 02:48 PM [Hello and Welcome]
                  168438, rabbitreborn, Dec 02, 2005 05:11 PM
                  168445, pop1, Dec 02, 2005 07:08 PM [dp1, Could we share our observations?]
                        168474, orolan, Dec 03, 2005 12:45 AM
                              168846, pop1, Dec 08, 2005 01:42 AM [Orolan, I like you but ...]
                                    169003, orolan, Dec 09, 2005 12:01 AM
                        168575, dp1, Dec 04, 2005 07:31 AM [pop]
                              168681, pop1, Dec 06, 2005 04:54 AM [Another try to dp1.]
                                    168704, dp1, Dec 07, 2005 03:15 AM [Pops]
            168440, Renunciation, Dec 02, 2005 05:50 PM
                  168510, 1dadof5, Dec 03, 2005 06:11 PM
            168477, poetsdreamscape, Dec 03, 2005 01:35 AM [christians]
                  168534, orolan, Dec 03, 2005 10:21 PM
                        168567, pop1, Dec 04, 2005 03:49 AM [My religion is with Jesus; my friendship...]
                              168593, poetsdreamscape, Dec 04, 2005 09:49 PM [religion bs]
                                    168611, pop1, Dec 05, 2005 03:32 AM [reply to poetsdreamscape]
                                    168634, dp1, Dec 05, 2005 12:24 PM
                                          168789, pop1, Dec 07, 2005 06:50 PM [Reply to two of dp1 messages]
                                                168822, pop1, Dec 07, 2005 10:58 PM [Forgive me.]
                                                      168936, dp1, Dec 08, 2005 04:25 PM [pops]
                                                            169344, pop1, Dec 13, 2005 02:54 AM [To dp1]
                                                                  169376, pop1, Dec 13, 2005 03:57 PM [Added message to dp1]
                                                                        169431, dp1, Dec 14, 2005 03:10 AM [pops]
                                                                              169438, pop1, Dec 14, 2005 07:14 AM [To dp1]
                                                                                    169456, dp1, Dec 14, 2005 02:39 PM [pops]
                                                                                          169513, pop1, Dec 15, 2005 03:32 AM [To dp1]
                                                                                                169526, dp1, Dec 15, 2005 04:54 AM [Gramps]
                                                                                                      169616, pop1, Dec 16, 2005 09:51 AM [To d...]
                                                                  169441, dp1, Dec 14, 2005 07:33 AM
                                                                  169444, dp1, Dec 14, 2005 07:54 AM
                                                                        169478, Renunciation, Dec 14, 2005 04:50 PM
                                                                        169503, pop1, Dec 15, 2005 01:43 AM [To dp: note I ...]
                                                                  169477, dp1, Dec 14, 2005 04:47 PM [pops]
                                                                        169506, pop1, Dec 15, 2005 02:19 AM [To dp1; I am a...]
                                                                              169527, dp1, Dec 15, 2005 05:03 AM [Gramps]
                                                                                    169561, pop1, Dec 15, 2005 07:08 PM [Things I...]
                                                                                          169611, pop1, Dec 16, 2005 05:54 AM [Thank...]
      168582, pop1, Dec 04, 2005 08:08 PM [Reply to dp1]
            168633, dp1, Dec 05, 2005 12:11 PM [Pops]
                  168856, pop1, Dec 08, 2005 02:44 AM [Hey, dp1, thank you!]
                        168932, dp1, Dec 08, 2005 04:13 PM [pops]
            168682, rodsmith, Dec 06, 2005 07:22 AM [pop1]
      168646, dp1, Dec 05, 2005 02:29 PM [Good article about Lafave's Sentence]
            168743, rabbitreborn, Dec 07, 2005 03:11 PM
                  168782, dp1, Dec 07, 2005 06:09 PM
                        168801, rabbitreborn, Dec 07, 2005 08:32 PM
      168996, Renunciation, Dec 08, 2005 11:21 PM [Marion County Complicates Debbie Does Hom...]
            169016, dp1, Dec 09, 2005 11:17 AM
                  169019, orolan, Dec 09, 2005 02:35 PM
                        169034, dp1, Dec 09, 2005 03:39 PM
                              169059, rodsmith, Dec 09, 2005 06:35 PM
                                    169069, Renunciation, Dec 09, 2005 08:05 PM
                              169074, rabbitreborn, Dec 09, 2005 08:35 PM
                                    169138, orolan, Dec 10, 2005 06:41 PM
      169076, pop1, Dec 09, 2005 09:02 PM [To dp1]
      169627, jzenman, Dec 16, 2005 03:20 PM
            169652, dp1, Dec 16, 2005 08:56 PM [jzenman]
                  169762, StungOnTheNet, Dec 20, 2005 12:12 AM
                  169781, pop1, Dec 20, 2005 04:29 AM [dp1, may I get back to you?]
                        169799, dp1, Dec 20, 2005 04:37 PM [Gramps]
                              169830, pop1, Dec 21, 2005 04:06 AM [To dp1]
            169677, pop1, Dec 17, 2005 05:39 PM [Hello, Messenger Boy]
                  169800, orolan, Dec 20, 2005 04:52 PM
                        169832, pop1, Dec 21, 2005 04:25 AM [Maybe you are right, Orolan.]
            169681, Renunciation, Dec 17, 2005 06:17 PM
                  169697, pop1, Dec 18, 2005 01:09 AM [I worship Yahweh, not Allah.]
                        169703, Renunciation, Dec 18, 2005 06:35 AM
                              169718, orolan, Dec 18, 2005 07:51 PM
                                    169731, pop1, Dec 19, 2005 01:18 AM [Where are you, Orolan/]
                                          169745, orolan, Dec 19, 2005 02:57 PM
                                                169757, pop1, Dec 19, 2005 06:56 PM [Forgive me, Orolan.]
                                    169734, pop1, Dec 19, 2005 03:05 AM [Why, Father, don't You make us si...]
                              169729, pop1, Dec 19, 2005 12:49 AM [Good Bye, Renun.]
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