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Forum: In the News

Thread (Discussion): [Tampa Bay's 10 News] Teacher Debra LaFave now a sex offender

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Message 168633 (In Reply to Message 168582)
Pops


Posted by dp1 on Dec 05, 2005 12:11 PM | Also by dp1
Gender: Female, Age Bracket: N/A, State: Florida, Country: United States
Why isn't the media doing more to inform the public about your rehabilitation programs, locally and nationally? That's the question I plan to ask some newspapers. Whether I get an answer is moot, to say the least. How do you as a therapist stay on top of the needs of people like Orolan? In my 34 years of teaching I am not sure that I did. I look back with some degree of guilt in my heart. What you say?


Great questions Pops. I'm interested in what type of inquires you would pose to the media and the reactions. Some people believe treatment works and others don't. Others believe prison is the only answer. I'd like to see a bigger push towards intervention. We do have some offenders who recognized they had a problem before they were caught or acted out. It sure sould be nice if they were somehow encouraged to get help before they hurt their victim. I'll let the offenders talk about why they can't or wouldn't get help before it was too late.

Pops, I'm a Parole Officer not a therapist. But, your point is still the same as far as working with needy people, meeting their needs or lack thereof and possibly facing guilt down the road. This is how I see it. We are all going to make mistakes whether it was intentional or not. Some of us will learn from our mistakes. Some people who learn from their mistakes adjust their behavior and the others will continue to make mistakes. Some people who adjusted their behavior get it right and the others make new mistakes. So on and so forth.

Somewhere during the cycle of your career you retired Pops. It's easy to look back and think about how you could have done things; better, smarter, more efficient, and so on. When dealing with humans you had little control over their behavior yet were in a position of authority to make an impression upon their young minds. I know in my position I think about how I can better treat people, how I can deepen my empathy for both victims and offenders, how I can learn as much as possible about a topic so I can minimize stupid errors, and most of all how I can keep myself surrounded by excellent mentors who will continue to guide me in the right direction through rough times. Most of the time making decisions is easy. All we have to do is look at a manual, policy or law book. Other times decisions can be difficult to make. What it boils down to is professional ethics. If you are a person who has struggled with this in the past, which I suspect you are, then most definately a situation like Debra's is enough to peg out your 'pissed off' meter.

Debra is a human being. So are all the RSOs on this forum as well as the other half million or so on the registries. You are in a position to identify with Debra probably because you shared the same love of teaching. I can assure you that most sex offenders are regular people just like Debra, you and me. They are attractive, smart, loving, caring, rich, poor, educated with lives, homes, wives, kids, jobs, etc...Sexual deviancy doesn't only effect a certain group of people. Pull up the registries and look at the pictures. Sure there are some pretty ugly mug shots on the internet, but they are no different than the scary people you see at Wal-Mart.

So tell as about some of the guilt you may feel about your profession. Do you mean mistakes that maybe you made personally or maybe about abuse of children you could have avoided?

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Message 168582
Reply to dp1


Posted by pop1 on Dec 04, 2005 08:08 PM | Also by pop1
Gender: Male, Age Bracket: N/A, State: Tennessee, Country: United States

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167830, admin, Nov 22, 2005 01:58 PM [Introduction]
      168421, pop1, Dec 02, 2005 05:26 AM [Does Debra understand the gravity of her situation?]
            168424, dp1, Dec 02, 2005 02:48 PM [Hello and Welcome]
                  168438, rabbitreborn, Dec 02, 2005 05:11 PM
                  168445, pop1, Dec 02, 2005 07:08 PM [dp1, Could we share our observations?]
                        168474, orolan, Dec 03, 2005 12:45 AM
                              168846, pop1, Dec 08, 2005 01:42 AM [Orolan, I like you but ...]
                                    169003, orolan, Dec 09, 2005 12:01 AM
                        168575, dp1, Dec 04, 2005 07:31 AM [pop]
                              168681, pop1, Dec 06, 2005 04:54 AM [Another try to dp1.]
                                    168704, dp1, Dec 07, 2005 03:15 AM [Pops]
            168440, Renunciation, Dec 02, 2005 05:50 PM
                  168510, 1dadof5, Dec 03, 2005 06:11 PM
            168477, poetsdreamscape, Dec 03, 2005 01:35 AM [christians]
                  168534, orolan, Dec 03, 2005 10:21 PM
                        168567, pop1, Dec 04, 2005 03:49 AM [My religion is with Jesus; my friendship...]
                              168593, poetsdreamscape, Dec 04, 2005 09:49 PM [religion bs]
                                    168611, pop1, Dec 05, 2005 03:32 AM [reply to poetsdreamscape]
                                    168634, dp1, Dec 05, 2005 12:24 PM
                                          168789, pop1, Dec 07, 2005 06:50 PM [Reply to two of dp1 messages]
                                                168822, pop1, Dec 07, 2005 10:58 PM [Forgive me.]
                                                      168936, dp1, Dec 08, 2005 04:25 PM [pops]
                                                            169344, pop1, Dec 13, 2005 02:54 AM [To dp1]
                                                                  169376, pop1, Dec 13, 2005 03:57 PM [Added message to dp1]
                                                                        169431, dp1, Dec 14, 2005 03:10 AM [pops]
                                                                              169438, pop1, Dec 14, 2005 07:14 AM [To dp1]
                                                                                    169456, dp1, Dec 14, 2005 02:39 PM [pops]
                                                                                          169513, pop1, Dec 15, 2005 03:32 AM [To dp1]
                                                                                                169526, dp1, Dec 15, 2005 04:54 AM [Gramps]
                                                                                                      169616, pop1, Dec 16, 2005 09:51 AM [To d...]
                                                                  169441, dp1, Dec 14, 2005 07:33 AM
                                                                  169444, dp1, Dec 14, 2005 07:54 AM
                                                                        169478, Renunciation, Dec 14, 2005 04:50 PM
                                                                        169503, pop1, Dec 15, 2005 01:43 AM [To dp: note I ...]
                                                                  169477, dp1, Dec 14, 2005 04:47 PM [pops]
                                                                        169506, pop1, Dec 15, 2005 02:19 AM [To dp1; I am a...]
                                                                              169527, dp1, Dec 15, 2005 05:03 AM [Gramps]
                                                                                    169561, pop1, Dec 15, 2005 07:08 PM [Things I...]
                                                                                          169611, pop1, Dec 16, 2005 05:54 AM [Thank...]
      168582, pop1, Dec 04, 2005 08:08 PM [Reply to dp1]
            168633, dp1, Dec 05, 2005 12:11 PM [Pops]
                  168856, pop1, Dec 08, 2005 02:44 AM [Hey, dp1, thank you!]
                        168932, dp1, Dec 08, 2005 04:13 PM [pops]
            168682, rodsmith, Dec 06, 2005 07:22 AM [pop1]
      168646, dp1, Dec 05, 2005 02:29 PM [Good article about Lafave's Sentence]
            168743, rabbitreborn, Dec 07, 2005 03:11 PM
                  168782, dp1, Dec 07, 2005 06:09 PM
                        168801, rabbitreborn, Dec 07, 2005 08:32 PM
      168996, Renunciation, Dec 08, 2005 11:21 PM [Marion County Complicates Debbie Does Hom...]
            169016, dp1, Dec 09, 2005 11:17 AM
                  169019, orolan, Dec 09, 2005 02:35 PM
                        169034, dp1, Dec 09, 2005 03:39 PM
                              169059, rodsmith, Dec 09, 2005 06:35 PM
                                    169069, Renunciation, Dec 09, 2005 08:05 PM
                              169074, rabbitreborn, Dec 09, 2005 08:35 PM
                                    169138, orolan, Dec 10, 2005 06:41 PM
      169076, pop1, Dec 09, 2005 09:02 PM [To dp1]
      169627, jzenman, Dec 16, 2005 03:20 PM
            169652, dp1, Dec 16, 2005 08:56 PM [jzenman]
                  169762, StungOnTheNet, Dec 20, 2005 12:12 AM
                  169781, pop1, Dec 20, 2005 04:29 AM [dp1, may I get back to you?]
                        169799, dp1, Dec 20, 2005 04:37 PM [Gramps]
                              169830, pop1, Dec 21, 2005 04:06 AM [To dp1]
            169677, pop1, Dec 17, 2005 05:39 PM [Hello, Messenger Boy]
                  169800, orolan, Dec 20, 2005 04:52 PM
                        169832, pop1, Dec 21, 2005 04:25 AM [Maybe you are right, Orolan.]
            169681, Renunciation, Dec 17, 2005 06:17 PM
                  169697, pop1, Dec 18, 2005 01:09 AM [I worship Yahweh, not Allah.]
                        169703, Renunciation, Dec 18, 2005 06:35 AM
                              169718, orolan, Dec 18, 2005 07:51 PM
                                    169731, pop1, Dec 19, 2005 01:18 AM [Where are you, Orolan/]
                                          169745, orolan, Dec 19, 2005 02:57 PM
                                                169757, pop1, Dec 19, 2005 06:56 PM [Forgive me, Orolan.]
                                    169734, pop1, Dec 19, 2005 03:05 AM [Why, Father, don't You make us si...]
                              169729, pop1, Dec 19, 2005 12:49 AM [Good Bye, Renun.]
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