Sex Offender Registries, Sex Offenders Search, News, Info and Discussion

  
Home | Sex Offender Registry | Megan's Law | Forums (Message Boards) | News Archive
AMBER Alert | Law Enforcement Agencies | Directory of Sites | Polls | Library | Glossary | More Resources                             Login | About Us

Top Posters Since October 2003
dp14000+
orolan4000+
Navigatr12500+
Silvert...2500+
1dadof52500+
Valerie2000+
steve1500+
victori...1000+
myoung1000+
rabbitr...750+
HPierce750+
poetsdr...750+
Renunci...750+
lj750+
fallenone500+
DoTheCr...500+
marta500+
momhelp...500+
prozac500+
rebel51500+
PVulcan250+
anti250+
rodsmith250+
LockEmUp250+
Quest250+
artie250+
KK250+
LostTime250+
TGoodman250+
amberleaf250+
deadmom...250+
brennus100+
scarlett100+
mousein...100+
thepar100+
assumpt...100+
lildrafire100+
JakeLF100+
MrTruth100+
june5100+

Newest Users
Registered within the last 72 hours.
dholla1031
Pooter
tlgrjlfromsc
tsand

Forum: In the News

Thread (Discussion): [ABC 30] Diana Delgado tells her side of the story

Switch to Flat View

In order to post a message to a new thread or reply to existing messages you must be logged in. If you'd like to post messages please login or register as a new user.

Message 144688 (In Reply to Message 144388)
Responsibility


Posted by oioi on Jan 29, 2005 03:58 AM | Also by oioi
Gender: Female, Age Bracket: 30 - 39, State: New York, Country: United States
One thing that is very important is to instill in children a knowledge of their vulnerability and a sense of responsibility. That is, even though a child or a teen may be victimized (molested or raped) and this is clearly the fault of the perpetrator, we are best off to instill in them the knowledge that their own actions do matter; that they do have some power.
For instance, if a child is told that it is inappropriate under any circumstances for an adult to touch them in certain ways and that s/he must report that touch, then that child is being initiated into a life of responsibility.
Of course, the child needs trustworthy adults around him/er to truly learn responsibility. That is part of learning by example.
It is not always easy or kind to teach this kind of thing. But a 16 year old who has been taught responsibility must be taught that if s/he chooses to have an encounter with a 50 year old, s/he must be willling to bear the costs. Even if she makes that sad choice against the training she has recieved, her family must still stand by and support her as they disapprove and warn her. But there is a time and a place when one must cut the cord. And if that child decides to move in with the 50 year old and/or have his baby, then she needs to be held responsible for those choices and treated as an adult.
Unfortunately, due in large part to the atmosphere of denial and willful ignorance, most such young women are not taught about the ramifications of such actions or about the future that inevitably awaits those who let themselves be pulled into relationships with much older adults.

But most folks are so sunk in denial they can't even address the issue.

oioi

See an abbreviation or acronym, but don't know what it stands for? Consult the Glossary.
Switch to Flat View

Message 144388


Posted by 1dadof5 on Jan 23, 2005 11:05 PM | Also by 1dadof5
Gender: Male, Age Bracket: 40 - 49, State: Indiana, Country: United States

Thread


144211, admin, Jan 20, 2005 09:18 AM [Introduction]
      144212, steve, Jan 20, 2005 02:20 PM [2 related stories]
            144249, 1dadof5, Jan 21, 2005 05:09 AM
      144238, LockEmUp, Jan 20, 2005 10:21 PM
            144294, victorialondon, Jan 22, 2005 04:53 PM [There's no reason for her to be on t...]
                  144319, LockEmUp, Jan 22, 2005 07:42 PM
      144295, victorialondon, Jan 22, 2005 05:02 PM [She has 5 Children...]
            144334, oioi, Jan 23, 2005 01:56 AM [Yes, but]
                  144439, LockEmUp, Jan 24, 2005 05:41 PM
                        144457, dp1, Jan 25, 2005 02:28 AM
      144342, dp1, Jan 23, 2005 03:41 AM [Don't get it]
      144345, oioi, Jan 23, 2005 04:30 AM [but i thought]
            144388, 1dadof5, Jan 23, 2005 11:05 PM
                  144440, LockEmUp, Jan 24, 2005 05:47 PM
                        144455, dp1, Jan 25, 2005 02:07 AM [lockemup]
                              144473, 1dadof5, Jan 25, 2005 05:01 AM
                                    144482, myoung, Jan 25, 2005 06:28 AM [dad]
                                    144486, LockEmUp, Jan 25, 2005 01:39 PM
                                    144489, dp1, Jan 25, 2005 02:33 PM [Huh?]
                                          144495, 1dadof5, Jan 25, 2005 03:49 PM [DP1, myoung]
                                                144564, 1dadof5, Jan 26, 2005 06:58 PM [lockemup]
                                                      144618, LockEmUp, Jan 28, 2005 12:51 AM [1dadof5]
                                                            144634, 1dadof5, Jan 28, 2005 05:07 AM
                  144687, oioi, Jan 29, 2005 03:56 AM [Responsibility]
                  144688, oioi, Jan 29, 2005 03:58 AM [Responsibility]
Forum Home | Top of Thread
Tell a Friend about this page.
Copyright 1998-2007 SexCriminals.com and Befriend | About Site | Credits | Contact Us