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Message 174507 (In Reply to Message 174307)
Former Police officer

Posted by emergency56 on Mar 16, 2006 05:54 PM | Also by emergency56

Gender: Male, Age Bracket: 60 - 69, State: Michigan, Country: United States

For those of you who think you must take a side that is never the case. I can tell you that after over 25 years in Law Enforcement thier is no such thing as one side or the other. The victims have a very hard time dealing with the pain and injury inflicted on them by the accused and convicted. The Accused have to live with doing such a bad thing. However if the crime is one of lower act as such. Then the accused should have a chance to do thier time and go back into the public with out being labeled on the SOR. They should have to do a number of years without committing anouther crime and then request the court of original jursdiction to have thier name removed. If they have completed a set list of things and a time of say five to ten years have past and they have commited no crimes then let thier name be removed. I am not suggesting this for higher crimes of Rape and sexual assualt of anykind that they may have done with a minnor, those people need to stay on th SOR (Sex offender Registry) for ever. But those with lesser crimes involveing sex acts should have a way to work thier way off the SOR. I can only tell you of the number of times I have heard some of them say well if I have to stay on the SOR for ever they I may as well be a sex offender again. In our type of goverment we want people to work to a good end, and we should not place them in a postion were they feel helpless and decide that if they are labeled a Sex Offender they should be one. I am not trying to take thier side but I have also seen them get fired from jobs because thier name was on the SOR. The problem with that is the last thing you want is someone with a criminal background not working. If they are working thier is less chance they will recomitte a crime. Also I have seen a case were a child of SOR was sexualy assualted because this boy found out her father was on the SOR so he thought she would be "sexualy easy" . His words not mine. I have seen property damage done to thier homes because I am sure that some teenagers were thinking will get that sex offender and no one will care. As for the Sex Offender recommitting Sex crimes well the fact is that they have a very low rate of recommiting crime, only murders have a lower rate. This is a fact and not just me saying it. The best thing we can do is work so that the crime does not get repeated and the way to do that is to come together the victims and the accused and find ways to end the crimes. And as a matter of fact their will never be a full stopping of cirme.

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Message 174307
Valerie

Posted by june5 on Mar 04, 2006 08:41 PM | Also by june5

Gender: Female, Age Bracket: N/A, State: N/A, Country: United States

I'm not sure why this keeps coming up, but I'll break it down for you:

In 1985 (well before I met him) my husband was accused of "accidentally but on purpose" brushing up against a co-workers breast at work.  He was charged with a misdemeanor.  His EMPLOYER paid for an attorney on his behalf.  Three FEMALE co-workers were eye-witnesses and testified on my husband's behalf.  He was acquitted.  He never told me about this.

In 2005, after I had been married several years, my husband was arrested for attempted rape.  He was accused of exposing himself while trying to pull down a woman's pants at a party.  She yelled, he went away.  These were the victim's accusations, so please don't tell me I am embellishing.  He pleaded guilty to a lesser contact offense.

Please don't accuse me of embellishing all this, I have read all the reports on these cases.  If you look at that information and think he is the sickest pervert ever born, that's fine.

My husband was totally wrong to do this.  Completely wrong.  I am sure that most people wouldn't look at my posts and think I am a strong woman.  Most people carry a serious bias.  That is fine as well.  I have to live my own life.

I just wanted  to get that straight because I'm not sure where the "burned twice" thing came in.  My husband burned me alright, and himself, and the victim.  Nothing good came out of his decision to be, at the very least, an idiot.

As far as me being a victim leading to me marrying an SO, well, he wasn't an SO when I married him, he had no record at all.  As far as what I deserve, well, all I can say is that aside from this, my husband has always treated me with the utmost of respect.  He gives me his paycheck every week.  I am not being dominated, controlled, or anything else.

I highly doubt anybody is going to believe anything I have to say about the quality of my marriage or the way that my husband treats me.  That's OK.    This is the last time I am going to defend my marriage on this board, so say what you want.

As to your assertion that I can't have it both ways, well, maybe I can't, but I do feel empathy for both sides.  God knows, I don't want to get anything started, but as an example:  I am against the death penalty, but I feel very badly for murder victims and their families.  I am against abortion, but I have a friend who got one and I let her cry on my shoulder and felt very badly for her.   That's all I can say about that.

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174228, june5, Mar 03, 2006 10:45 PM
      174258, Navigatr1, Mar 04, 2006 05:08 AM
      174279, orolan, Mar 04, 2006 01:58 PM
      174281, Valerie, Mar 04, 2006 02:15 PM
            174307, june5, Mar 04, 2006 08:41 PM [Valerie]
                  174376, Pending Further Review
                  174507, emergency56, Mar 16, 2006 05:54 PM [Former Police officer]
            174322, june5, Mar 05, 2006 12:06 AM [Valerie]
                  174348, Pending Further Review
                  174350, Pending Further Review
                  174353, Pending Further Review
                  174375, Pending Further Review
                  174420, Pending Further Review
                  174472, Rejected
                  174475, Valerie, Mar 11, 2006 05:37 AM
                        174609, Pending Further Review
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      174419, Pending Further Review
      174517, fireflybabe, Mar 17, 2006 05:48 PM [VICTIMS DO COME HERE]

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